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The amount of times I've heard people say "I supported circumcision until I saw a video of it being performed. I could never do that to my son" is crazy

There's also been MULTIPLE times where I've shown a friend or someone in my life a video of it being performed and they were so immediately against it after.

Of course, there's a lot of people who are just THAT ignorant, or simply don't care that they're torturing their son. But if more people saw the raw truth, things would change faster.

When I was a teenager, my dad sat me and my brother down and said something that stayed with me. He was circumcised as a baby, and he told us quietly, "I didn't want you boys to go through that. It's not necessary. You're fine the way you are." No lecture. Just a father who knew what had been done to him and decided his sons wouldn't carry the same scar.

My brother and I both grew up intact. He seemed to take it in stride in a way I couldn't quite manage. While he moved through the world unbothered, I was quietly cataloguing my own body for faults.

The first thing that planted the seed of worry was something nobody warned me about my foreskin took its time detaching. For years it wouldn't retract fully. I'd try in the shower and it just felt stuck, like a sleeve sewn too tight.

I didn't know then that this was completely normal, that it can take well into the teenage years for everything to separate naturally. All I knew was that something down there didn't seem to work the way I thought it should. That slow separation became my first real source of unease, and it coloured how I saw my foreskin before I even got to the comparison stage.

Once it did fully retract, I became hyperaware of what I'd been missing. My foreskin was like a tiny retractable hoodie, a soft gliding sleeve that covered the head when I was soft, then slipped back on its own when things got...awake. In the shower I'd pull it back and see the hidden skin underneath, so sensitive I'd flinch if water hit it directly. My body had a secret compartment, a sleeping bag built in for its most sensitive part. I was quietly fascinated.

But that fascination curdled into shame the moment I started comparing. In locker rooms I'd clock every variation, crew neck, crew neck, crew neck and suddenly my turtleneck felt excessive. I mastered the towel change maneuver of a man with something to hide. By my late teens I was googling adult circumcision, convinced a little trim might make me feel more "normal."

I never did it. The thought of surgical scissors anywhere near my best friend was a solid deterrent, but the real shift happened when I started meeting more intact men. I learned that the skin I'd been hiding was packed with nerve endings, not a defect, but a feature. Those guys called themselves "whole," not "uncut." That word rewired me.

Slowly I stopped seeing a flaw and started seeing me. I came to love the glide, the sensitivity, the way I was designed. I thought about my dad's quiet protection and felt deep gratitude. He gave me the body he never got to keep.

I created a little space for these conversations (18+) called The Whole Man, for intact men sharing stories and asking awkward questions, with partners and curious circumcised guys welcome too. If any of this hit home, come say hello.

I've used this so many times, and then they just stand there barely able to wrap their heads around what I just said like 😮

The point is:

There are 6,800 mammal species. Only whales, dolphins, marsupials, elephants, and bats are born without a foreskin. The reason for this is in these select few species, their penis does not rest flaccid externally; their penis rests flaccid in an internal cavity, unexposed to the outer world. Therefore we cannot compare their anatomy to humans.

But, every single mammal species whose penises are external 24/7 just like humans penises are, have foreskin.

What every single mammal species has in common, is their penile glands are protected from the external world at all times besides during erection.

Do you mean to tell me that evolution made the same mistake across all 6,800 mammal species by making sure their glands are protected?

And did evolution make the exact same extremely specific mistake with foreskin by giving it to (roughly) 6,700 mammal species?

Or, if viewing it from a religious standpoint:

Did God give all 6,800 mammals glan protection by accident? Do you think humans know better than your God?

This is not a stab at science and clinical studies, but rather a reminder that we should all be able to think independently. Studies and research are crucial, but you also can't allow your thoughts and opinions to be purely dictated by a strangers write-up.

We all instinctively and subconsciously know that circumcision is wrong. But cultural influence persuades us and we're taught to not trust our own gut feeling, but rather look to others to form OUR OWN opinion.

I'm sure most of us in this community have at one point or another watched one of those videos where a baby is screaming in agonizing pain while being mutilated. That's plenty enough to come to the conclusion that circumcision is painful, and unethical.

I think so many pro-cutters just lack the ability to think independently in general. They're looking at other peoples opinions to then form their own. It obscures their ability to look at things as they are.

The best example of this is how most pro-mutilators are against FGM but are in support of MGM. Both are performed for the exact same reasons, both cause the victims pain, both are a violation of autonomy, both cause sexual dysfunction and other negative effects; but they've been conditioned by the media and culture to think one is BENEFICIAL, and one is horrific.

You don't ALWAYS need a study, logic is often enough to determine right vs wrong... but either way there's tons of research showing the negative effects of MGM so either way it's absurd.