r/l4l

Hey there! I'm Liz, a songwriting and guitar nerd who is in love with wild west looks and 70s/80s/90s music. I'm not super unhappy single, but would love to have a life partnership.

I've had a stable job for a long time, but I invest a lot of time and money in musical projects as well, whatever I deem reasonable at a given time. One of my dreams is to have a van for driving to gigs and to Croatia for holiday some day, but also other places in Europe.

I consider myself soft masc, I enjoy doing traditionally masculine tasks like removing unwanted insects, opening bottles and fixing stuff. I'm looking for someone who knows what they enjoy and are willing to communicate, because while I am more comfortable in a dominant role, to me it is just a different flavour of servitude and my happiness mostly doesn't come from serving myself :)

I am open to having one child down the line, it's not a must, but I would if it were financially possible. I'm also much of a countryside-loving person who would fix up an old house and live a rustic, slow life.

That doesn't mean I don't feel like being a little flamboyant sometimes. It's just not my baseline, probably because when I do, I take it way too seriously, sewing whole outfits and doing crazy makeup.

Generally love DIY and reuse / repair culture.

No go's:

- being very judgemental (say, towards mental issues, racism, ableism)

- being critical of an artistic / spiritual lifestyle (I am a very artsy, go with the flow type of person so I'd just drive you mad anyway^^)

- being super flakey (I may seem messy, but I'm punctual and whatever is arranged, I stick to that and want to be able to rely on my partner to do the same)

- if you deeply value order, we're not a match either. I work very hard on keeping things hygienic, but I don't wanna sugarcoat it: I am pretty chaotic, especially at home with all my DIY hobbies.

Gray area: I'd be hesitant of an age gap of 5+ years.

Anything else you may be worried about, let's just talk about it openly :) If this resonated with you somehow, it's definitely worth a shot for us to talk :)