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So this is more of a specific scenario here, I'm a 30M banana myself but I can I can speak a bit of mandarin and understand what people said depending on the complexity. I don't read or write well. I can speak cantonese but I don't do mandarin.

So as I'm on dating apps and met some of the girls in person,some of the girls who prefer mandarin over english, I would say so it's kind of a language barrier or just having trouble communicating with each other to learn about each other. There are more from the SJK school I've met so far. I did try my best to communicate in mandarin. At least, I'm just showing effort to do my best to communicate in mandarin

Along the way, it's kind of a turn off for them cause I can't do mandarin and it will be difficult to communicate in future which I understand but yeah.

My questions are:

1. Anyone out there encountering the same issue as me?
2. Have they always ask why didn't you pick mandarin as extra language or do you not speak mandarin at home?
3. I'm more annoyed that "banana" applies to mandarin language and not the rest of the dialects like Hakka, Hokkien, Cantonese and the others. Isn't it part of our chinese culture? Have they forgotten about it?

Fun fact about me, I grew up from a small town and most of the people there speak Mandarin and Cantonese. I could have pick up Mandarin but I just had troubles learning mandarin back then. I'm not sure why thou.

Anyhows, anyone got some story or experience they want to share. I just feel annoyed about this.

Also, it's kind of a bit identity crisis cause I don't fit in the chinese race and felt a bit lost in it after going through this multiple times

Btw, it doesn't have to be dating stories. it could be work too

It’s been a year since I graduated from uni and working in a big corporate company. I went to visit a friend’s graduation today and walked around school alone while he is hanging out with other mates taking pics, the realisation came to me on how much I missed uni life and the potential chances of meeting people. As I’m typing this in the cafeteria sitting alone, I realized how socially dead I am. I worked hard this year to grind for money, hated my job but continue to work for a corporate that doesn’t feel rewarding, this can be a totally different post on its own. The point is that I have no social life, single, no friends outside of workplace. No one I can call or text. I have just gotten so depressed and sad on this environment. I hated how I missed out on all the opportunities I could have to make friends in uni, clubs I could have join, people I could have met and become nerd friends together.

I always love working out, stock market, and nerding about animes. I feel jealous of people who get to have groups to hangout often, weekend activities, and go cosplay/anime events, games together…

I’m just a 23 year old Chinese, no social life, and always work till very late night person. Ffs I even workout alone in my own room…

I’m currently on day 6 of housemanship, tagging in O&G, and I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about my future.

I’ve had a rough week, and yes, there have been complaints about me being slow. But honestly, that’s not why I’m considering quitting. Being left to figure things out is something other HOs have experienced too, and I know housemanship is supposed to be challenging.

I’ve just realised that I don’t think working in the Malaysian government healthcare system is the life I want for myself.

I know that might sound like a stupid reason to leave, especially when I’ve only just started. But I don’t want to get several postings deep, spend more time and energy building a career in a system I already feel disconnected from, and only then realise I should have explored other options earlier.
I graduated in June and started working almost immediately. Looking back, I think everything happened too quickly. My parents encouraged me to keep moving forward, and I’ve spent most of my life playing it safe, following the expected path and doing what I was supposed to do.

I’m 27 now, and I think I’ve been putting too much pressure on myself to get everything done by a certain age. I kept telling myself I was running out of time, but lately I’ve started wondering why I’m rushing through my own life.

I have an Irish medical degree, so I’m thinking of exploring the AMC pathway to Australia, as well as my options in the UK and Ireland. I know none of these routes is guaranteed, and I still need to confirm my eligibility, registration requirements and the practicalities of each pathway.

My current thought is to resign before I get further into housemanship, take some time to study and explore my options, and potentially find another job while preparing for the exams.

If things don’t work out, I can reassess my options, including whether returning to housemanship is possible. I know I need to clarify the reapplication rules before making any decisions.

I’m aware that leaving a secure, conventional path for something uncertain is a risk. I might struggle, things might take longer than expected, and I might eventually have to return to the path I’m on now.

But for once, I want to take a gamble on myself. I don’t want to make every decision based on fear, my age, my parents’ expectations or the idea that I must progress as quickly as everyone else.

I want to explore my options and see what kind of life I could build elsewhere. If it takes longer, so be it. I’d rather give myself the chance to try than spend years wondering what would have happened if I had.
Has anyone here left Malaysian housemanship to pursue Australia, the UK or Ireland? I’d especially appreciate hearing from Malaysian graduates with Irish medical degrees who have explored these pathways.
I’d also like to hear from anyone who left a conventional career path, took a risk and had to figure things out along the way.

I’m not looking for people to tell me housemanship is difficult. I know that. I’m trying to work out whether it’s reasonable to recognise that a particular career path may not be right for me and explore alternatives before committing more years to it.

I know it’s a gamble. I just think I’m finally ready to take one.

Just like to hear from people who have called ambulance, police etc. for a road accident, if let's say it was in an unfamiliar area, or on a random spot of the highway, how do you describe where it is located?

Is there even a way to share location via WhatsApp or app? Can I keep the line on for them to trace my location (does it even work like in the movies?)

From our emergency service personnel, what information do you need to help you pinpoint the location? I guess any landmark? But if on highway where both sides are palm oil plantation/forest, then how?

Realistically, is there any 1 room studio that can be rent below RM1000 in Kuala Lumpur?

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She insist to go to a bar and order her beer. She even said she can AA which is BLEHHH

Update: I left already and she is idling around the Pelita mamak waiting for her next prey I think.

After some unhappy back & forth, she said "Fine, I wanna go back and end our date". So I walked out and follow her, she show me to a car Mechanic. LMAO I think she also promoting the China Mechanic outlet.

Btw, after leaving the bar I even ask if she wants to hangout with me at mamak and I will treat her but responded in her disgust, "Eww, indian people I dont want" 😭

Or just mention readily ‘anyone who got mental illness cannot apply for this job’. No need to give us fake hope especially fallen in your propaganda about mental health in workplace etc. Why do we need to go through all hurdles of application and interviews only in the end the government won’t even want to hire people that functioning properly (that have mental illness but supported with official documents from doctor pychiatrist that stated fit to work)? Seriously, no need to beat the bush and destroying the honesty of people.

Hi guys, just wanted to ask if anyone here has experience with a PUSPAKOM inspection for vehicle ownership transfer.

Do they care much about a loud exhaust during the inspection?

My Myvi currently has a 2-inch exhaust piping with a middle resonator, but it’s still quite loud 😅

Has anyone gone through the ownership transfer inspection with a similar exhaust setup? Did it pass without any issues?

I’d prefer to go for the inspection with my current setup first, and only change it back to the stock exhaust as a second option if necessary.

Thanks in advance!

It’s to buy to cook at home, not the best at restaurant. I’ve been visiting lee’s fandbee, but I’ve noticed that even their grain fed chilled or angus chilled lack marbling compared to Village Grocer. VG has the same chilled angus striploin for example, but their marbling looks so much better but also insanely more expensive at almost 2-2.5x the price.

What store is a good middle ground? Where it’s not as expensive as VG, but still the steak has great marbling.

Hey I’m Romain, I am from Switzerland and I have 19 years old. I look for some people that want to do activities, visit the town, hang out, coffee….
I’m here for one month !
Love discussing and learning about other cultures