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So this is more of a specific scenario here, I'm a 30M banana myself but I can I can speak a bit of mandarin and understand what people said depending on the complexity. I don't read or write well. I can speak cantonese but I don't do mandarin.

So as I'm on dating apps and met some of the girls in person,some of the girls who prefer mandarin over english, I would say so it's kind of a language barrier or just having trouble communicating with each other to learn about each other. There are more from the SJK school I've met so far. I did try my best to communicate in mandarin. At least, I'm just showing effort to do my best to communicate in mandarin

Along the way, it's kind of a turn off for them cause I can't do mandarin and it will be difficult to communicate in future which I understand but yeah.

My questions are:

1. Anyone out there encountering the same issue as me?
2. Have they always ask why didn't you pick mandarin as extra language or do you not speak mandarin at home?
3. I'm more annoyed that "banana" applies to mandarin language and not the rest of the dialects like Hakka, Hokkien, Cantonese and the others. Isn't it part of our chinese culture? Have they forgotten about it?

Fun fact about me, I grew up from a small town and most of the people there speak Mandarin and Cantonese. I could have pick up Mandarin but I just had troubles learning mandarin back then. I'm not sure why thou.

Anyhows, anyone got some story or experience they want to share. I just feel annoyed about this.

Also, it's kind of a bit identity crisis cause I don't fit in the chinese race and felt a bit lost in it after going through this multiple times

Btw, it doesn't have to be dating stories. it could be work too

Anyhow, my gf just broke up with me. I'm now single again. I don't know where to share and I thought reddit is a good place.

Sorry if the whole thing is going off everywhere. I apologize.

Anyhow, I get the reason why she wanted to break up with me as I fail to support her emotionally when she needed the most. I fail her and I will learn my mistakes.

The other funny thing was I remember the K-drama called "Can this love be translated"
Thinking about that reminded me of one of our issues were communication incompatible

I wasn't trying hard enough for her and for us.

TLDR; I messed up and I failed her. That's it. Thanks for reading :)

I have went to Urban Retreat but it's just soso to me. Anyone else have better recommendations? I want to treat myself to a 4-5 star if possible. I want to treat myself

Let's just say you just started a new job or you have been in the job and comfortable where you are at and no plan to move. Will you accept the invite, reject or leave it there?

I've been told by some people that they said never log in to your social media accounts in your work devices cause company can track your searches/activities. I'm aware that company have a logs of our activities. The question is has anyone been caught by the company or got call out?

I'm not sure anyone has asked this question but I am curious. I have seen people saying doing LASIK is the best thing ever. No more glasses.

So what's stopping you from getting it? I understand the price ain't cheap. Curious to hear your reasons

My first gf that I brought to meet my parents. It went to hell. My mum was being all toxic and negative and threaten me to break up with her. I tried being supportive but in the end, it didn't work out. We broke up

Now my current gf, I'm worried about her. I'm willing to stand up for her and I have learn from my mistakes. They haven't met but there are concerns.

Just curious, did anyone here stood up for their partner? How did things went with your family?

Also, I just want to learn what everyone go through? There's no right or wrong answer and I'm aware there are others who are going through the same thing as me

I'm considering doing lasik but so far everyone that has shared been doing SMILE OR at other clinics. So curious whether has anyone done their lasik in this specific clinic?

I've been considering to do LASIK but I'm worried about certain stuff like pain during the process or after the post-LASIK process.

Any comments or advice? Was it worth it to do LASIK? Ignoring the financial part. I am aware of the price 😅

I was having these random thought and ask myself, is the younger version of me will be proud of who I have become? What I'm doing? Am I happy?

For me, I guess I'm reaching there. Still in progress but I think the young me will be happy that I'm doing something and the tough time I have to go through to be where and who I am

So will the young you be proud of where you are now?

If not, do you have any advice to yourself?

I have left that shady agency company that has been paying at the last minute on the last legal day. I'll be starting my new chapter next month

The only problem with this company is I don't want to deal with them anymore which means I just want my final paid. By law, they have to pay me within 24 hours during my last day. Please do correct me if I'm wrong. It's on June 18 (last day)

It has been a week and have no updates. I even send an email to ask for an update. No surprises. No responds. I'm so annoyed. I just want to get it done. I know I can be patient but my new work also requires some doc from me and this shady agency company is just making me annoyed. I just want to threatened them to report to JTK. They already break few laws. Just feel like I want to report them hard

That's all i want to share . Thanks for reading. Been frustrating me the past few days

I've been a QA for few years and when I was going in interviews, I notice the companies has either been implementing automation for years and some just started. The companies were not sure how they want it or what they want

It seems to be a bit slow for companies in Malaysia to start implementing automation.

Any thoughts? Also, are you concern about AI taking over testing?

Will you choose to know "how you die? or when will you die?

In my case, I think the person was being friendly to me and quite chatty with me. At that time, I thought she was just being friendly. I think there were signs like sharing me random facts and stuff. We chat a lot but nothing happen. She move on since dumb me back then didn't realise.

What was your story?

Here's my opinion and these are the ranks I have in mind:

1. PwC
2. EY
3. KPMG/Deloitte

The reason why KPMG and Deloitte are on the same position because I heard both of them are not great to work in. These are based on the news and stuff I heard from news and what has been happening lately.

If you have an opinion on this, please share

Edit: I may have use the wrong term to say which is best. You may suggest different dept and so on. You are welcome to share. I believe this subreddit is to help people to share and gain some ideas on what they might get themselves into for future

I heard Maybank is nice to work in? I could be wrong. I think CIMB was okay. I ain't sure but what bank are great to work so far?

As the title stated

From my prev post - For those who are new to the post, read this if you're curious.

So I have rant about my current company situation.

The latest update is now the company did not pay me on last Friday and Sunday is the 7th day of the month(June). Meaning they have broke the contract and the law. Their contract said the paid will be done before or on the 7th of the month.

So at the moment, I will wait til Monday and send an email to ask what is going on cause maybe there's technical issue or something. If they go on radio silent on me, I'm just going to report to JTK cause I am so doneeeee with their attitude.

I've been doing by their books/SOP/guidelines, whatever you called it. Yet, they themselves messed up. So, if you're interested, I'll keep you posted

Summary, company messed up and have not paid my salary

I just want to let it out. Not even sure this is the right subreddit.

Anyhow, I've been with this shady agency company for 6 months and they have been making me anxious and misleading me on my project with the client.

One of their recruiter reach out to me and said 12 months contract with this client (Which I thought) . I was like okay, cool. I don't have to worry too much about job security for the next 12 months and maybe hopefully can be converted full time.

I signed the contract and I realised my contract was with the agency for 12 months and I was like cool, still got a job for the time being. Along the content of the contract, I notice the paid is before the 7th or on the 7th of the next month to get paid. I was like okay. I have worked with a company before that does this and has always been okay. Still get paid at a decent period. Well, this company ain't. It will go to the latest as possible and I only receive my paid on the last freaking hour, 11pm based on the IBG schedule. I was like WTF.

(Side note: I know people should tell me I'm grateful as you still get paid within the law period frame. Some doesn't as I read people sharing their experience in reddit here. Getting paid after the 7th but still it made me anxious.)

Now this is where it gets annoying, I have throw in my resignation letter on May 18 and based on contract, I will have to serve one month notice which means my last day is June 18 with the agency. As I was checking with the client, my contract period between the agency and the client is June 15. Meaning I only have to work with the client until June 15 but based on contract, I'm still a full time employee under that agency. The agency decided to cut me off short and said my time will be until June 15 and not 18. Again, the contract said it's between me and the agency not with client.

So I check with Gemini for clarification and ask my friends as well, they all said the same thing. You are under the agency and not under the client. Meaning I still have to get paid until June 18. So of course, I've been sending email to follow up. Guess what, they don't even bother to respond or follow up or anything.

Once I threathened them with that I will reach out to JTK, the PIC reach out and we discuss. Of course, I'm not making any more mistakes. I quickly drafted and sent a follow up email on what had been discussed to avoid any he said, I said situation.

So now, they have not follow up and they have been remaining silent. I know I'm making a huge fuss about 3 remaining days but the based on my calculation it's roughly 1K worth so I'm not letting go and not sure will JTK take it seriously thou. The law they break is salary deduction without a valid reason

Honestly, if this shady a** company was okay and been transparent and communicative. I would be fine. They aren't.

FYI, there are other parts I didn't put out but this has been an annoyance to me since the day I threw in my resignation letter

Did the JTK dept manage to resolve your issue or it's wasn't helpful at all. I read the reviews stating the people are not professional or no one picking up the phone. There are some positive reviews. Curious what's your experience?