r/obgyn

I'm extremely scared and worried that I'm pregnant. I don't know if this is valid anxiety or not, but I just need to get this off my chest. For context - all me and my partner did was fingering and dry humping.

I'm scared because in the span of 7 months my period has changed drastically. It's more clotty, different texture different color, different everything. Could it be due to my diet changing after meeting him? Once I have met him I started eating pizza almost weekly (1 day each week), and usually stuff like mcdonalds etc., also weekly. My stomach has a bump (something in the shape of an oval), could it just be me gaining weight/fat, or maybe an intestine? Because Right now I weight 48kg, before, on a check up was around 49-50kg.

He also wiped his hands a few times only on a piece of cloth, and then fingered me around 15 to 30 minutes later.

I took 2 tests 4 months ago, and they were negative, I also went to get an ultrasound (5 months ago) because I might have endometriosis or something similar, and nothing came up. My right and left side are also almost always constantly in pain, which is also not helping my worries, now especially the right, it only helps if I'm laying down and doing nothing.

Am I okay? Or could I be pregnant without knowing? My boyfriend reassures me that I am not, and that he was never inside of me, but I'm very worried and need to hear others opinions about this. I also have a visible line on the "lower half" of my stomach, and burn marks from hot bottles.

Edit: I also keep feeling either kicks or gas in my belly constantly, and I just dont know anymore.

So this is all rather embarrassing. I have had a bad ptsd/depression episode that has left me unable to shower regularly. I am supposed to have a gyno appointment today, and I am thinking about just calling out sick since I can't seem to bring myself to shower. Should I do that? I don't want to he a bother to my gyno because I am gross, and when I look into it the consensus seems to be that going to the gyno without being clean is a pretty rotten thing to do.

Thanks in advance.

Holaaa me da vergüenza mi vulva ,porque no sé si se ve normal,alguna me enseña a suya?

I’m 36 F, was on birth control from ages 17-30, always had regular cycles typically 29 ish days long.

In August I lost someone very close to me, and shortly after started a period that lasted about 3 months. At the time I put it down to grief and stress, but I saw a doctor anyway. I was sent for a pelvic and transvaginal ultrasound and both came back clear.

Around January ish my period seemed to go back to normal so I forgot about it and just decided it was stress. However, in March, I started bleeding midway through my cycle. This also happened in April & May, and the last month especially I’d say I’m spotting (normally pinkish brown but sometimes red) nearly every day.

Went back to Dr, got sent for blood tests and everything came back normal: thyroid, liver, kidneys all good; no STDs, FSH level normal etc.

The only abnormal result was my LH, which was very elevated. Apparently this is normal when you’re ovulating (?), which I would’ve been during my normal cycle, but because I’m bleeding every day I have no idea what cycle day I’m on anymore.

I have no other symptoms of PCOS or endo that I know of and I’m at a complete loss. I’m particularly worried because my husband & I were trying for a baby, but I have no idea how to do that or track anything when I don’t know what my body’s doing.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Is there a test I should be asking for?

i think i started my period but i have no idea. there’s bleeding but light, some clots, with cramping and breast tenderness. i had sex about 4 weeks ago and im extremely consistent with my birth control. he did pull out.

i just want to ask other people because i REALLY do not want to take a test.

So I’m a 20 Female a virgin btw so basically not all the time but lately now more then ever I noticed when I get aroused before even touching my clit or before it’s feeling really sticky and wet down there it’s this soreness near the part which I believe is my vagina near the clitoris a little bit too but i barley feel they and it’s not really painful but it’s this weird soreness I get and it can be a little uncomfortable to the point where I stop fully and wait for it to be gone but there was one time I got it when I was really horny and I kept rubbing myself and I felt better but when I get that sore feeling it’s when I don’t actually plan on masturbating I just get turned on by something I looked at or thought about and that sore feeling comes. So I just don’t know and I’m confused and wanna know I’m not the only one who feels this and if there’s anyway to make it stop or how to handle it when it happens?

UPDATE!: just went to the doctor (planned parenthood) and they took a sample and are testing it. However, the doctor told me that she does not think it’s herpes. And if it is she said it would probably be HSV1 and most likely wouldn’t ever come back down there. She said she just thinks I may have a yeast infection and maybe another infection as well. I am feeling much better about it all now.

Really long but I NEED HELP!!!!!

All relevant info listed in a timeline:
Sun: had really rough sex with a partner ive been casually seeing / hooking up with for a few months. we had unprotected sex for a minute or two at the end. He pulled out. I was SO SWOLLEN immediately afterwards. It was scary. I’ve never swelled like that before. I was super tender and sensitive but not overly painful.
Mon/Tuesday: the swelling went down a good bit. i was still sensitive and tender. On one of these days i found a raw patch of skin on my vulva by my vaginal opening. It stung whenever I touched it which is how I found it. I looked at it in the mirror and just saw a raw red patch of skin. Looked like the top layer of my skin had been rubbed off. I didn’t think anything about it since we had ROUGH sex. It did not hurt/sting unless i touched it or wiped.
Tuesday/Wednesday: the raw patch started to heal/crust/scab around the boarder. Looked whiteish. By Wednesday I was feeling much better. No pain.
Thursday: felt fine again. Raw patch wasn’t super sensitive or stinging anymore. I was planning on having sex again. I shaved. I ended up not having sex. I used a new vibrator I had just gotten for the first time. I over did it for sure.
Friday: my clit was sore and sensitive. Looked irritated . I used the vibrator more. I had a TON of razor bumps from the night before when I shaved. Over my entire pubic area and vagina. That never happens and i remember thinking it was strange. It itched terrible. At this point i wasn’t having any noticeable pain or itching when i wasn’t touching anything.
Saturday: still sensitive and swollen. Still used the vibrator. Razor bumps were better. I woke up that morning and my newish belly button piercing that ive had no issues with was DISGUSTING. Oozing orange/yellow everywhere and so swollen red and crusty. Not sure if this is related or not.. it’s weird though. My vagina was HURTING. I looked at it again and I was super red and irritated. The raw patch didn’t look any different in shape or color (still red + whiteish) but definitely inflamed. It was smaller than it originally was and went to a red sore with a white middle that was deeper than the original patch. It started leaking fluid. Yellowish. Not puss. Only hurt if i touched it still. I was hurting so bad towards the night on saturday. I even put ice on myself to try and ease it. I masturbated but did not use vibrator. Lymph nodes by my hip bones swelled up.
Sunday: lymph nodes went down. Then.. ITCHING!! Not the sore though. Not terrible and it really started at night. It literally woke me up it was so bad. The sore looked exactly the same. Belly button was worse. I wasn’t severely hurting all day- just irritated and sensitive like Saturday. Sunday night was rough though.. Woke up in the night and put a cold washcloth on myself. It started hurting really bad when I peed in the night. I also masturbated but no vibrator (I have a high sex drive ok)
Monday: THE WORST. The morning was fine even though night before was awful. I was at work and went to the bathroom to pee. First time it stung but fine. Second time mid day? It burned the same but the itching and burning after was awful. I couldn’t sit still. I went home and looked at everything again. All looked the same aside from the sore being a little dryer. No scab. I woke up in the night multiple times because of the burning + itching while I was sleeping again. My pee stopped stinging though that night and so did the itching and uncomfortablility. I poked at the sore a lot and definitely made it more irritated. My lymph nodes swelled again but worse and close right next to my pubic area that connects to my upper thigh. I can see them sticking out. They aren’t super hard and I can move them around though. Here is the worst part!!!!! I looked closer and I have a tear in my vagina!!!! Perineal grade one. It’s kind of jagged though and has tears/rips with white around them in some places. It doesn’t hurt to touch, just a little itchy if I do and I have a lot of runny white discharge that has no smell.
Tuesday (today): woke up in the night before twice. Morning has been fine so far aside from my pee stinging a little in my first pee. I looked again this morning and everything looks the same, but more irritated because of how much I have poked at it. It was leaking a lot of orange-ish fluid in the night from the sore. I am feeling fine now but I can feel the irritation on my vagina if I pay attention to it. I never feel the sore unless I hit it. My discharge has been completely normal otherwise. Only my actual clit/vag/labia/etc itches and burns. Not the sore.

SUMMARY:
I have an open circular / oval sore on my vulva by my vaginal opening. It started as a raw red patch that looked like my skin got rubbed off after unprotected aggressive sex (swelled really bad after). It was all healing until i shaved and over used an intense vibrator. It is now surrounded by red with a whiteish opening in the middle that hurts only when i touch it. It is also right next to a grade one perineal tear at the opening of my vagina. I have been having swollen groin lymph nodes and a lot of pain and itching at times. I also have burning pee sometimes. Everything comes and goes which is weird. It’s been 9 days. The sore hasn’t changed much at all aside from getting a little smaller. My discharge has been normal aside from a little more coming from my tear. The sore has never hurt (even now) unless i touch it. Also never itches in of itself. Never had any blisters. Entire pubic area is itchy and burns bad sometimes. The sore leaks orange liquid. It’s all awful at night. WHAT THE HELL IS THIS?!? im freaking out!!!

Thank you for the help!