r/obgyn

Hey guys, i have kind of an embarrassing question, so I had unprotected sex this month, first it was while i was on my period and it was brief for like 3 seconds he didnt finish in me, second it was also for 5 seconds he didnt finish in me, and third it was a few days ago litearlly as i was about to get my period and also didnt finish, all those times he was not even close to finishing and it was for 5 seconds, so very brief, my period is late for 2 days, i had period symptoms, sore breasts rignt now and cramps 7 days earlier like usual but no period, could i be actually pregnant, btw please dont suggest pregnancy test i am not able to get one for about 2 weeks 🫣🫣 please let me know should i be worried or am i overreacting

It’s so embarrassing to talk about, but it’s been bothering me for some time.

I don’t remember when the itch started? Maybe six years ago? It comes and goes, it’s not a constant itch. I would say it’s exactly around the vaginal opening area, the skin there. Not really anywhere else down there. But what do you guys think it could be? If anyone has had a similar experience and knows more?

I have PCOS/PMOS, if it helps? I have tried googling, and it says it can be a yeast infection, but my discharge feels normal. Or an STI I think it said? But I haven’t had sexual intercourse with anyone yet, so I don’t think it’s that. And then irritation from products, I don’t use anything down there. I do have a cream from the pharmacy, but that’s all. I don’t use it that often, it’s supposed to help with dryness. I know it has no perfume or anything at least, but once it has worn off I do feel like the itch can feel more intense.

I have noticed the skin looking dry, especially after a shower, and that when I used to have periods for months, the itch never came. It only came like maybe before or after a period. Natural lubrication that builds up and like arousal also helps with the feeling, and kind of calms the itch.

It’s really so embarrassing to talk about, I tried sharing as best as I could. In case anyone knows more, or has any experience with it. Again, it’s not a constant itchy feeling? It can come maybe once a month or so? I haven’t kept track, but it’s not that often. But each time it comes I get just as frustrated!

Right now I honestly think it’s hormonal? Maybe? Because of my PCOS/PMOS, I am 19 for reference. If that changes anything with what you guys might think it is! But yeah, thats probably it!

I would love to hear what you guys think it could be! Might help me figure out too! 😊✨

I’ve not really been given a lot of information on what this procedure is or what they do. I’ve been told to take painkillers before coming in.

I’m 21. Very nervous about doing it.

Update: I don’t answer private messages please don’t send me any. Happy to answer questions on here. I’m having it because of irregular bleeding outside of menstruation. When my doctor checked my cervix she saw a mass but was unsure about what it was.

Guys, I’m feeling really nervous. My period is 11 days late. Last month it was also 12 days late, but I haven’t had sex since then. My last time having penetrative sex was more than 6 months ago. I took a pregnancy test, and it was negative, 26 in total (+ US, last one was in 14, August, e/ no fetus)…

On the 14th, I had an ultrasound. My doctor saw a 22 mm follicle in my right ovary and said I would probably ovulate soon. It’s already the 18th, and still nothing. I don’t know what to do.

I also had some intimate contact that didn’t involve any kind of penetration or ejaculation, just rubbing while we were fully clothed. I’m scared. I’ll only be able to take another test at the end of the month. Should I schedule another appointment? What should I do?

Okay so I had my first Pap smear about a year ago, I was graduating from college and wanted to get everything checked out before I lost the school health insurance and it was the single most painful thing I had ever experienced, I genuinely screamed during it

Anyways, something the doctor had said to me was that I had a “small cervix” and that seemed to be the reason she had some difficulty during the Pap smear, I didn’t ask any questions about if she meant a “short cervix” or what because I wasn’t aware of things like short cervixes at the time

So my questions are what exactly is a “small cervix” and was that the reason it hurt so much during the Pap smear? Because when I told my roommate what the doc had said, she seemed to believe that it meant that sex was going to be painful for me even though I’ve had toys up there, but maybe they just weren’t as big as the speculum so I need to worry about the size of what goes in there? And also what are some other things I need to be aware of with a “small cervix” because I tried to look up on my own what that might affect but no matter what I look up it all goes back to short cervixes during pregnancy specifically

I’m no longer on any health insurance currently to go to a doctor to ask, so any information y’all can give me here is greatly appreciated!!!

Im 31 F and never been sexually active. Im already embarrassed about this. I have never gotten a pap smear or shown a doctor my private areas. Anyway, yesterday I woke up with so much pain down there and noticed this huge hard lump that resembled a pimple I think but it wouldnt pop. Anyway, with a LOT of anxiety, I ended up booking an appt with my GP because she had one for that day. When I went it, I was already anxious and flushed looking so my GP was really nice and asked if I was okay and everything. So during the exam she was really kind and made it super quick and prescribed me some antibiotics. After everything was done, she asked me if I was sexually active, to which I replied no. She seemed genuinely shocked and asked again and I said no. Then she asked why and I was kind of stunned and didnt know what to say and then she said "you should find someone and enjoy". And I laughed because I wasnt sure if she was lightening the mood or what. Anyway, that sort of stuck with me a bit because Im already aware that im weird for being a virgin at 31 but I didnt really expect a doctor to say that.

Maybe im just dramatic because it was my first intimate exam down there but just wanted to get some opinions. Thanks all <3

For the past 5 or 6 years I've gotten abnormal paps (yearly) with negative HPV. I've had 2 colposcopy in that time. Usually every other year, I had the last one in 2025. Pap from earlier this month just came back same, abnormal with negative HPV and she wants to do another colposcopy! It's only been a year. Is it bc I turned 35 this year? I'm going to have a talk about possible hysterectomy when I go in next, has anyone gone that far to prevent this from happening every year?

It's just so stressful and painful to go thru this every year. Anyone with this experience, thoughts are helpful.

So I’m getting an IUD in two weeks (baby’s first) and my dr said they’re gonna give me lidocaine and to take ibuprofen before hand… I don’t know my dr very well yet but she seems nice I just wanna make sure I’m not gonna be screaming on the table so would that be enough to be ok??? SOS I’m nervy

I’m feeling really anxious and would appreciate some advice because I’m currently 31 days late for my period.
The last time I know for sure that I had vaginal sex was April 20, the day after my period ended. We used a condom the entire time, he ejaculated while wearing the condom, and afterward I filled the condom with water to check for any holes or leaks. There weren’t any.
I got my next period May 16–20. On May 21, we may have done something sexual, but honestly, I don’t remember if we actually had vaginal sex. I don’t think we did because I normally take a video of myself checking the condom with water or write down what happened afterward, and I didn’t do either of those things that time. If we did have sex, it would have been the day after my period ended, and I would have checked the condom afterward to make sure there were no leaks.
I then had another normal period from June 15–19, and I had no sex at all in June.
On July 6, we did sexual things, but there was no vaginal sex. My period was expected around July 16, but it never came, and I’m now 31 days late.
Could I somehow still be pregnant from April 20 or possibly May 21? Would having normal periods in May and June essentially rule out pregnancy from those encounters?
Since I’m 31 days late, should I still take a pregnancy test, or would pregnancy from those encounters be extremely unlikely? I’m really scared and don’t know what to do, and I’d really appreciate some reassurance or advice.

Okay this is going to be a long one fair warning. And if you are here to comment that medical malpractice lawsuits are pointless and not worth it, then keep it to yourself. I just want justice for my son and myself.

This happened in May of 2025. I was 20 years old and had a normal pregnancy up until the dreaded gestational diabetes test. I failed and was then instructed on how to eat and how to give myself small nightly insulin shots because I was unable to bring my morning fasting number down with just diet. However my numbers were not really that high at all just a little more than the standard.

Due to this I was told I must have an induction. This is the standard I have been told. Even tho baby was always weighing on track.

I went in on a Wednesday morning at 6 with my boyfriend at side. I was 39 weeks and 4 days. Things started out great, we played Fortnite while the pills they put up there softened my cervix. They did a few of those and I slowly progressed. By midnight my water broke naturally and the pain started. I was insufferable with back labor. By about 2 a.m I called for epidural. My first epidural was great relief. That man was a saint. I layed down and even got some sleep. The next morning the nurses continued to check me every few hours. The doctor had been by once or twice but she was seemingly uninterested and told the nurse to get her when the real action starts. By 8 a.m. they decided I was ready to push. This is when things started going south.

I was forced to push for 6 hours straight with little to no breaks. My nurse tried everything she could. I was in all positions we tried all the methods nothing worked. She just kept telling me “just a little more”. The doctor came in a few times, she even did an ultrasound at one point because just now it accrued to her that I had said baby was face up. She decided that was the cause of the length of time I was pushing. Granted I was a first time mom so yes I would say it’s normal at this point.

At around 5 hours of pushing my nurse started to get frazzled. My epidural had failed and the shitty anesthesiologist that replaced my saint from last night was terrible. She failed it twice. Then gave me a shot of fentanyl to try to mask the pain. I was absolutely screaming I was in so much pain and nothing was working. At this point my nurse mentioned c section, I was fine with whatever because I was in so much pain.

However the doctor finally decided to show up and she wanted me to keep trying. She manually tried to turn my baby with her hand which caused his heart rate to plummet. Finally after 6 hours of pushing baby and I were not doing very well. His heart rate was not going back like it should after contractions. The doctor decided she wanted to try the vacuum. I was spent and said yes just get him out. Well it failed. Miserably. It popped off his head blood gushing everywhere. She tried twice and went for a third try and that’s when I screamed enough and the nurse agreed and they decided to go for emergency c section.

By this point I was wavering in and out of consciousness. They wheeled me down to the OR. They checked his heart rate on the way down and it was in the 70s. The anesthesiologist took 12 minutes to do the spinal tap.

They laid me down on the table and things started to feel very wrong. I felt like I wasn’t breathing. The nurses insisted this was normal. I tried to stay calm but suddenly I couldn’t feel my hands. Then I could barely talk. I tried to tell them but they ignored me. Then I lost all control of everything. I could only move my eyes. They did a test poke on my stomach that I could feel but I was paralyzed so I couldn’t even tell them. Finally one of the nurses realized what had happened and said “she’s high” so she then proceeded to say “we’re gonna give you something just to calm you down. And then it all went black.

Now this is what I imagine death is like. I truly did think I was dead. I said my last prayer while I faded into the darkness and was at peace.

That is until I heard noises around me. A nurse beside me said “they are getting him out, just a minute and you will see your baby”. Then I faded into the blackness once more.

The second time I woke up was not as calm. I heard voices and panic around me saying “starting compressions” and other medical mumbo. I assumed I was having an out of body experience and it was me they were working on. If only…

Next thing I know I wake up to a calm OR. My dad is standing above my head crying. I told him I was okay. He just shook his head. And I knew.

My baby did not make it. They said they tried everything. They had to pull him out by his legs because he was stuck so deep in my pelvis. I’m assuming it was from the various vacuum attempts.

I was never given an explanation. I was sent home with a box of my babies things and a severely screwed up body.

My c section incision was so bruised the doctors said they had never seen anything like it. They tore my uterus badly in multiple places. I will never be able to attempt natural birth again.

However that is besides the point. I need your guys help on what to do. I have reached out to multiple lawyers but they are too scared to take on big bad $anford.

I am screwed up. Mentally and physically. I have panic attacks, nightmares and enough bodily pain in my stomach and back to make a grown man cry.

It has been over a year now and I thought maybe I would calm down and be able to accept what happened but I can’t. I’ve tried therapy and am looking for a new one to try soon.

I want justice for my baby. He was perfect. 7 pounds 3 ounces and 19 inches long. Not a thing wrong with him.

The doctor refused to meet with us when we requested a face to face meeting to go over what happened.

So my question is. What can be done? The statute of limitations is 2 years so time is running out. It was clearly a case of medical malpractice. If the doctor would have just called for a c section sooner. But she pushed a first time mother and a face up baby to push for 6 hours straight. No progress was ever even made in the birth canal. Nurses and doctors what’s your opinion?

Sincerely, a distraught mother who misses her baby.

Getting my first (hopefully last) colposcopy in a month, and I was wondering what I need to know. The office told me to eat beforehand and take 600mg of ibuprofen. I broke it down by question.

Prep:
The office only told me what was above, is there anything else I should do beforehand?

Pain:
My therapist (who went through this whole ordeal and had cervical cancer) told me to ask for valium for the procedure—do y’all think the office will do that? I think my office will but I’m curious about others’ experiences with that.
I got an IUD ~6 months ago, how would you compare the pain to that? Mine hurt like hell, but it definitely wasn’t the worst pain I’ve ever had to endure.

Procedure:
How long did it last? Were there parts that felt worse than others?

Afterwards:
How long were you guys in pain afterwards? What was the severity of it?
Was there anything you couldn’t do l? Aside from sex haha.

I’m going to call the office to ask about the valium, and I know they’ll be answer a lot of these questions, but I’m looking for some anecdotal advice. Any tips or tricks for any part of this ordeal? Thanks! Here’s to hoping for good news at the end of it all.

I had my period about two weeks ago, (maybe more but not that long) I started bleeding and it's the second day, it's not like a ton of blood but it's still a good bit, not enough to fill a pad but more like a liner. I haven't experienced any pain, maybe a little bit but it's hard to tell, not anything severe at least. I'm also taking mirtazapine for insomnia and I was wondering if anyone's experienced that as a side effect or if it's related. (Im 17 and a virgin so it's not an STD)