r/penpals

To tell a long story short, I [45/F] moved to Charlotte, NC a little over 8 years ago. Originally from Puerto Rico, I've moved around quite a bit, but looking to settle down in the Queen City. I'm a bit nerdy, a lot introverted, but gotten quite outspoken with age.

Favorite topics range from Ghibli films, Harry Potter, Stephen King books to video games and true crime:

1. Howl's moving Castle and My Neighbor Totoro

2. Harry Potter and the sorcerer stone (Order of the Phoenix onward end up crying)

3. It and The Shinning

4. Stardew Valley, No Man Sky, Fallout New Vegas, Disney Dreamlight Valley

5. People are the Worst, Crime Junkie

Live with my Australian Shepherd fur baby, recently lost my beautiful orange cat of 13 years, and I'm looking to make friends close to my age.

My current hobbies include journaling, scrapbooking, taking pictures of flowers and mushrooms, museums, horror movies, true crime podcast, stickers, and collecting plushies.

I look forward to learn more from you, wherever you live.

Hey! I've posted here before but haven't had much luck so far. And due to lonliness, things have been kinda sucky lately. Kinda being a star-sized understatement (cuz stars are big.. hehe). Anyways, excuse my awfully unfunny pun! You *yes you my possible future friend* probably has better humor than I. Im hoping to make long term friends, I want a close connection with someone that lasts a lifetime! Hoping we can geek out about our interests and feel comfortable to do so! I'm in the EST time zone and am super into music (my tastes are all over the place, my favorite is the retro classic era but I also like a lot of new stuff too). I also like just general conversations and deep ones too. Hope you're all having a good day!

Moved to Tennessee over the last several years and looking to build some meaningful pen pal relationships! I’d love to meet people from different places, learn about your life, and hopefully make some genuine friendships along the way. I’m open to people of all ages and backgrounds, and I think there’s something really special about getting to know someone through letters and messages rather than just quick social media interactions.

A little about me:

I’m a huge outdoor enthusiast! I love hiking, exploring new places, and spending time outside. I’m always looking for a new trail to explore, whether it’s a short scenic hike or an all-day adventure. I also absolutely love to travel, both stateside and internationally. I try to take a trip about once a month when life allows, and I also get the opportunity to travel for work, which I’m very grateful for. I love experiencing new cities, trying local foods, learning about different cultures, and finding those little places that you wouldn’t necessarily see on a typical tourist itinerary.

I’m also a big reader and would almost always choose a good book over watching TV or a movie. I love getting recommendations, so if you’re a reader too, please tell me what you’re currently reading or what book you think everyone should read at least once!

I have an unhealthy addiction to LEGOs 😂. I love putting together sets and definitely have more than I probably need. I’m also really into gardening, plants, and growing my own fruits and vegetables. I have an impressive indoor plant collection as well, so if you’re a fellow plant person, we’ll probably have plenty to talk about! I’m always happy to swap gardening tips, plant stories, or pictures of whatever happens to be growing.

One thing I’ve learned about myself is that I genuinely love being alone. I’m perfectly happy taking myself out to dinner, exploring somewhere new, or traveling solo. That said, I’m also very open to eventually having a travel buddy if we get to know each other and hit it off! I think friendships can grow into some pretty amazing adventures.

I’m also an adventurous eater and would LOVE to swap recipes. Cooking is one of my passions, and I especially love learning about food from different cultures. Tell me about your favorite traditional dishes, family recipes, regional specialties, or something you grew up eating that you think everyone should try. I’m always willing to try something new!

And finally, I have three dogs—two Goldens and a Bernese Mountain Dog—so there’s a very good chance you’ll eventually receive unsolicited dog pictures. 😂

I don’t have kids, but I’m married and completely open to exchanging letters/messages with anyone. I’m not looking for anything romantic—just genuine friendships and people who enjoy getting to know one another.

If any of this sounds like we might get along, feel free to message me! I’d love to hear a little about you, where you’re from, what you enjoy doing, and what made you want to find a pen pal. 😊

Hello all,

I am in search of a couple new penpals! A little about me:

- I live in the northeast US with my husband, in a small country town. We get lots of snow!

- I have been writing to penpals for a little over 10 years now. I currently have 3 active pals. 💌

- I love to garden, and hope to have chickens and goats someday. 🐐🐔 and maybe a turkey 🦃

- I am a huge heavy metal fan, but I will listen to just about anything....I love music! Recently saw Signs of the Swarm, Paleface Swiss and Lorna Shore (for the 4th time!)

- I am a recently license ham radio operator! I have yet to get my set up going, but if you have interest in this, I would love to write. I currently have 1 ham radio penpal 😀

- Lord of the rings is my favorite movie series 😀

- I love to read!! Currently I am reading book 2 in the Poppy War series by R.F. Kuang.

- I am a Nurse 🏥

Looking forward to some snail mail 🐌 with new folks!

-Sam 🦊

Okay, here me out...

I want to test out an idea!

I am looking for a penpal, but in a mostly anonymous way.

Because of posting requirements, you will know my age and gender but I don't want to know yours. We can use a code name or just our user names to address each other. We will also obviously know where each other lives but that's it. I want to learn about you through your writing - your life, your culture, your norms, etc.

This is pretty much the idea. Just looking for one person in the US and one outside the US. So please comment your country and I will pick someone randomly! (I am in the US for reference)

Only requirements are that you must be 18 or older and you can only comment for yourself.

Hello world!

First of all, what prompted me to seek a penpal?

I have had two penpals in my life.

I had one as a child, a girl of the same age, two hours by car away from me. We were best friends, in the way small girls who live next door to each other often are - but I had to move away. We kept up correspondance for about two years. I still have some of the letters, written in the inexperienced and blocky handwriting of 7-year-olds.

My second penpal was a japanese boy. We were both teenagers, and connected through a dedicated website for finding penpals across the world. He wanted to practice his english, and I was curious about his country and culture. We exchanged letters for a year and a half before I moved to Japan, and we fell out of our routine. This was also around the time when smart-phones started to appear and become more commonplace. Social Media was taking over more and more of our social lives. We never went back to writing paper letters. However, our friendship has lasted to this day, and I have met him twice. Once in Japan, and once in Europe. We have always been there for each other as long distance friends, through good times and tough times. These days, we speak a couple of times a year, like each-other's instagram posts now and then, and catch up over old memories from time to time.

Recently, I discovered a cache of old letters written by my father to my mother, in the early years of their relationship (including the first year of my existence). He traveled for work on ships, and was away for long stretches of time, in an era when communication was analogue and not guaranteed. Dodgy international phone connections at exorbitant rates, patchy mail service from faraway ports, the waiting and longing to hear from someone familiar. It stirred something in me. A longing for a simpler time, perhaps, where we weren't online almost 24/7, expecting instant replies, knowing so much about other people's lives before meeting them in reality. And then, as if by magic (how could the algorithm know this?), r/penpalsover30 appeared in my feed. I can't be the only one?

For the longest time, I have sent post cards. I still do, but some of those I sent post cards to are no longer in my life. It was a great source of joy for me to send them, and it's still a wonderful feeling finding something physical in my mailbox that has something written just for me on it. I imagine letters will do the same thing. Writing letters, making little doodles, getting to know someone else in the slow sense. I like the idea. I like the idea of us, in 10 or 20 years' time, looking back at this relationship and being happy for it. Post-cards could be part of it too, especially if we travel somewhere.

I'm open to both males and females, preferably of similar ages, but I don't mind correspondance with someone older either, especially women. The most important thing is a willingness to commit to a long term penpalship if it feels right, that doesn't fade out after just one or two exchanges. I also don't want the letterwriting to feel like a chore, but to bring joy to us both.

About me: I'm single, without children. I live in a city. I'm established in my adult life with a job, hobbies and routines. I have no pets, but I love animals. I'm active and enjoy hiking, running and climbing. I love exploring food through cooking. I travel often. I read books when I can, and I romanticize life a lot. My favorite genres are historical fiction, fantasy and certain flavours of science-fiction. I enjoy cups of tea, listening to the rain, forest walks and thinking about life. I do crochet, and wish I could knit. I'm a social creature and enjoy spending time around other people. I don't watch or read news, but I love conversations about the world and our lives.

So, are you out there, future penpal?
I'm curious about you.

EDIT: I have received a lot of messages! Thank you, please let me have some time to go through <3

Hello,

I'm a 35 year old father of a 2 year old daughter/troublemaker and soon™ husband of a wonderful wife. I'm in search of people from all over the world to get in touch via snail mail. I once had as a youth a pen pal connection but that sadly didn't hold up.

Now I'm trying again as an adult.

I prefer snail mail as I've made the experience that this kind of connection works best for me and results in longer lasting exchanges. If snail mail is too intimate too soon or generally not wanted we can do email as well.

Regarding myself. I'm living in western Germany near the dutch border. I work in the public sector. I'm enjoying badminton, go to the gym regularly, hear audio books nowadays more than reading thanks to being a dad, gave up local soccer fandom for being a NFL fan. I even welcome eagles and cowboys fans to write me. 😁

If anything speaks to you what I wrote just now, you're searching for someone who is interest in genuine sustained contact thhen you're very welcome to contact me. I have zero issue regarding gender, religion or other backgrounds. I think exploring and recognizing different experiences is a wonderful thing.

Best regards!

Hello everyone! Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I've always liked the idea of having a pen pal, especially nowadays when most of our conversations happen instantly through messages and social media. There's something really nice about actually taking the time to write to someone, waiting for their reply, and having a little piece of another person's life arrive in the mail.

I'm 22, I currently live in Eastern Europe for university. I'll hopefully graduate next year, so I'm currently trying to survive the final stretch of university while pretending I have everything figured out. 😂

I'm a pretty introverted person and an INFJ, if that means anything to you. I'm usually quiet when I first meet someone, but once I'm comfortable I can talk for hours. I really enjoy getting to know people slowly and learning about all the little things that make them who they are.

As for my interests, I'm a bit of a nerd. I love video games, especially things like God of War, Baldur's Gate 3, The Witcher 3, Elden Ring, Sea of Thieves, Apex and Rainbow Six. I'm also really into sci-fi and fantasy, and I love movies and TV shows that completely pull you into another world.

I also paint and build model planes, and I play guitar occasionally when I want to relax. I'm very much the kind of person who can spend an unreasonable amount of time watching a 9-hour video about some completely useless topic and somehow find it fascinating. 😭😂

Music is probably one of the biggest things in my life. It's gotten me through quite a lot over the years, and there's almost always something playing somewhere in the background. My current obsession is Sleep Token, especially Take Me Back to Eden, but my taste is pretty varied and I'm always looking for new things to listen to.

So please, if we become pen pals, send me your favourite songs, artists, albums, playlists anything. I genuinely think music is one of the easiest ways to get a little glimpse into someone's personality.

I'm also a huge fan of random conversations. Tell me about your day, your favourite childhood memory, something you're currently obsessed with, a weird hobby you have, something you're learning, a completely useless fact you know, or some random thought that crossed your mind at 2 AM.

I actually have a ridiculous amount of useless knowledge myself, and unfortunately my sister has been forced to listen to quite a lot of it. 😭

One of the things I'd really love about having pen pals is getting to learn about life somewhere completely different from my own. What does an ordinary day look like where you live? What food do you eat? What music is popular there? What places do you love? What traditions or little cultural things would someone from another country find interesting?

I'm not necessarily looking for someone who has exactly the same interests as me either. I'd actually love to meet people who can introduce me to things I've never experienced before. Tell me about your hobbies even if I know absolutely nothing about them I genuinely enjoy listening to people talk about things they're passionate about.

I'd ideally like this to become a long-term friendship rather than exchanging a couple of messages and disappearing. I completely understand that life gets busy and that replies won't always be immediate. I'm not expecting someone to write every day or respond instantly. I'd just like to know that there's someone on the other side who actually enjoys continuing the conversation.

I'd also love to eventually exchange physical letters, postcards, photographs, little drawings, random things from our respective countries, or whatever else we feel like sending. There's something really special about having a little collection of someone's life sitting on your shelf.

I'm open to people from pretty much anywhere and don't really have any specific requirements. I'd much rather hear from someone who is genuinely curious, kind, open-minded and interested in building a friendship.

If you're interested, feel free to DM me! Tell me a little about yourself, where you're from, what you're interested in, what kind of music you listen to, or even just something completely random.

Please don't worry about writing the perfect introduction. I'm an introvert too, so I know how awkward the first message can be. 😂

Maybe we'll exchange a few letters.

Maybe we'll become long-term friends.

Maybe I'll end up learning something completely unexpected about a part of the world I've never seen.

I'll see you on the other side of the glass!! : )

You know when something ridiculous happens and you immediately know exactly who you need to message?
That. I want that kind of friendship 😂

31M, married dad and engineer from Canada. Looking for a platonic friend who enjoys random daily conversations, sarcasm, sending things with zero context, occasional deep talks, and actually sticking around.

I’m into travelling, food, golf, and hearing about other people’s lives. Mine is fairly normal… except for the minor detail that I live in a nudist town. 😂

Anyway — tell me what happened in your life this week that you’ve been dying to tell someone.

Hi there,

I recently realised the idea of having a friend who i got to know through their words and writing, without knowing them in person, was pretty neat, plus a new way to possibly make stronger connections.

My first language is English but I currently live in a country that speaks a different language, I can tell you more about where I'm from and where I live if we were to start talking. I am a classically trained musician- kinda, as I'm still in school, but I'm really passionate about the art of playing instruments. I love all kinds of music, specifically jazz, classical, folk, prog (hence the King Crimson profile pic) and classic rock. I really enjoy hiking, specifically up mountain trails, but nothing too complicated or overexerting. I absolutely adore movies and books from any timeline and genre, I'm not picky.

If we were to get to know eachother, I would prefer keeping it strictly email in the beginning, no messaging or letters juuust yet. If things were to progress, we could switch to snail mail, but, you know, being a young girl on the internet is scary, and sharing my adress with strangers isn't really at the top of my bucket list.

We can talk about absolutely anything and everything. I would love to give and get new recs on music, books, and movies and series, and to get new perspectives and opinions on life. I do tend to ramble and rant.

We could be long-term buddies the other can confide in without the fear of being judged or embarrassed. It would also be great if we were somewhere close in age, gender doesn't matter to me at all.

So, if you're interested and think we'd get along, feel free to send a dm or reply to this :)

To start off I am mentally ill and I have a lot of life issues so if that is a bit much for you you do not need to contact me. I have been told I can be funny and I am a nice person overall.

I enjoy memes, TV, music, books, etc. and I know how to code somewhat and draw. I enjoy John Candy movies, the band The Beatles, shows like What We do In The Shadows, King Of Queens, etc.

I am looking for someone to talk about life with, share music, memes, etc.

I live in the United States, I am disabled and do not work so I have a lot of time to talk to the right person.

Hi there!

I'm making a post on behalf of my grandmother. She's 81, from England but living in Canada. She's interested in finding a penpal, but isn't very technologically minded, so I'm making this post for her.

She has a cat named Max, grey fur and a lot of attitude. She likes television, especially Star Trek: Deep Space 9, baking shows, crime procedurals, and a range of other things. She reads, across a variety of genres, and bites the heads off her gummy bears before eating them. She's got a particular appreciation for the music of Leonard Cohen, and for orange pekoe tea.

She's looking to correspond with someone else roughly her age, from outside of North America, and she's open to writing first. She's kind, clever, good company, and has nice handwriting.

Let's put our grandmothers in touch!

hiii! I'm looking for a penpal to send mail to! Something like a journal where we share updates of our week/month. My interests include animals (especially parrots), anime, and movies! (My two favourite movies are How to Train Your Dragon and Across the Spiderverse). My hobbies are crochet, sculpting with air dry clay, and jewellery making, which I would love to share with my penpal. I also like to collect stickers but I have nowhere to use them right now.

I'm looking for a penpal my age who would be interested in hearing about vet school adventures since I'm starting uni next month. I'd love to exchange postcards as I always see cute ones I want to buy but have no need for.

Hi! I have been living abroad for almost three years now, in a small picturesque village in southern Germany. I find it difficult to make close friends here, as many people come only for a short time and then leave again as tourists. I keep in touch with my old friends, do some part-time work, and study a little online. Because of this, I spend hours at the computer or on my phone, which makes me feel a little discouraged. I really love paper letters, and in general I am trying to move towards a simpler, slower-paced life.

From the outside, I may seem introverted and rather reserved, perhaps even a little mysterious, but in close conversation I can talk for a long time and with great pleasure. I am interested in discovering the world and learning new things about art, culture, and cinema. Sometimes I feel that I read too much news, but I cannot quite tear myself away from it, partly because I want to live through this moment together with society. Later, all of this will become part of history. I started becoming interested in history a couple of years ago, and since then I have been filling in the gaps in my knowledge with great curiosity.

I spent several years of my life back in my home country studying neurophysiology, although that is all in the past now. I would be happy to talk about all sorts of things — I have both the time and the desire to write. I am interested in both long and short letters, sad and funny ones, whether perfectly written or not. I can correspond in Russian, in intermediate English, and in still rather weak German.

As I mentioned in the title, I am 22, live in Türkiye, and am a student. I study architecture and am currently an intern at an office. I love most forms of art. I paint with watercolors. I like to spend my day playing The Sims 4.

I would like to meet new people, hear about their daily lives, and learn about them, their culture, etc.

I don't really have any requirements, just someone who is willing to make a new friend and is open to talking.

We can talk about personal things, impersonal things. We can talk about life, ideas, hobbies, relationships.

Hi there, i enjoy writing and find it relaxing so I’d like to start writing letters! I am an engineering student with a passion for sustainable energy. My hobbies are woodworking, reading, electronics, classical guitar, fossil hunting, plants in general and bushcraft skills.

I am also interested in folk history/ furniture and I want to learn more about Celtic history and traditions.

I’d love to talk to someone and share our experiences over mail! I don’t mind if you share interests with me or not, I just want to learn more

Hi! It's been a while since I've made a post here! As the title states, I'm looking for a few folks who might be interested in doing some snail mail/postcard writing with me! Not necessary but definitely a plus if you're someone from outside the US! :)

A little about myself - I'm a 33-year-old non-binary/trans-masc-leaning/queer person living on the west coast of the US! I am currently jobless, so I fill my day trying to make it as a freelance artist and... a content creator?? Very loosely speaking, lmao. That just means I have a lot of free time on my hands!

I enjoy playing video games - I actually used to be a QA tester before getting the boot! I'm a major crafter for sure, too. I enjoy art and crafts in all forms. I went to college for animation and while i rarely animate these days, I still enjoy the visual development side of it! If you choose to write with me, you'll most likely get some drawings, prints, stickers, etc from time to time. When I'm not arting, I'm usually listening to true crime and D&D podcasts, figuring out my ~pen pal-ing style,~ and collecting stuff. I really love collecting things... two major collections I've got going now are my Sonny Angel collection, and a mini art gallery I'm working on! Other random things I enjoy include Sanrio and cute stuff, Aliens, collecting physical media (music and videogames), Tamagotchi, and sweets.

Anyhow! I should also probably state that sometimes I get The Sads and I can get quiet. I will try my damndest to not let that happen, or happen as infrequently as possible. Sometimes, shit just happens though. And I figured I should let y'all know! Usually, I reply within a week or two. Sometimes it takes me a month to reply. I do not expect you to reply right away! Take your time! This is supposed to be fun :) additionally, you might end up getting a "boring" letter from me every now and again because of the depression, and, well, i rarely leave the house. I might not be able to doll up a letter as much as I want every time either, but I can still get one to you regardless!!

With that said, I don't really have a lot of 'criteria' for folks who wanna pen pal with me. I'd prefer to chat with people in the 25-40 age range, and though it's not necessary, it'd be awesome to link up with other queer folks!

Thanks for reading my long-winded post! If you wanna connect or have any questions, just lemme know! My chat and DMs are open! (I think!)

Also I just realized I say 'folks' a lot

Hello ^^ I'm at a weird transition point in my life where I moved to a place where I have no friends and no family, and am now divorced and in a place with no friends and no family close by. It's been difficult and I think I need to open myself up to making friends again.

A bit on myself, I'm HUGE into Warhammer (40k specifically), as well as TTRPG games, Pokemon, anime, etc. I play a lot of games as well so anyone who has hobbies within the same realm we'd get along great!

I also like talking about law, which is just another weird special interest of mine that I happened to get a degree in (I'm not a lawyer).

So yeah :3 I am terrible at introducing myself so hopefully it's a little easier once we get to know each other!

Hi there! o/ (waves)

COME ON IN, have a seat, comfy?! Great, Would you like some tea and cake?

Let me tell you about myself whilst you enjoy some refreshments!

☆ Married, INTJ, Ravenclaw, quirky, introverted-extrovert (I am a contradition), nerd, geek, patient, curious, quiet life lover, anxiety/over thinker, dog mom (Cockapoo - see profile pic/avatar)...

☆ Love: Gardening🌱, wildlife & garden bird watching 🐦🐾🐛, growing plants & veg🌼🌽, cooking, history, country music, sci-fi, fantasy, stickers, mail-art, PC/Xbox gaming, stationary..

☆ Watching Tv: Bookish, Ludwig, Professor T, Vigil, Line of Duty, Victoria, Trigger Point, QI, Discovery of Witches, Dr Who, The Crown, Star Trek, Star Wars, Bond, LOTR, Harry Potter, Documentaries..

☆ Books: Discworld, Harry Potter, Star Trek TNG, Discovery of Witches...

☆ Fun fact: Had my ears pierced for first time end of last year and another piercing early this year

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I am looking for:

●● FEMALE SNAIL MAIL pals

●● 25 to 65 (roughly)

●● From anywhere in the world, including the UK

●● No pressure reply when you can, relaxed friendship always

Please introduce yourself.......

Hi there! I met some really cool people here a few years back, and I'm... well back haha.

Okay... I'll be honest about why I'm here to get it out of the way. It might seem a bit depressing, but I promise for the most part, I'm quite a positive person. About two months ago, I got out of a complicated, three year long-distance relationship. Don't worry, I'm not looking to replace her or anything like that, in fact, needing true low-pressure platonic friendship is the main reason I'm here.

But, due to my focus being on the relationship for the past few years, I find myself with few friends and my social skills are quite rusty. I've been easily overwhelmed with many of my attempts to socialize again, and while I've made some new friends through hobbies, I've no one to really... actually talk to.

I guess I want something that feels safe, but meaningful, if that makes sense?

So with that out the way, here's a bit about myself:

- I live in Europe, in a rather small country (hence why I'll tell you when we're actually talking lol, otherwise I'd be reluctant to put down too much personal information)

- I like writing, especially science fiction and fantasy. But I experiment with other genres now and again too!

- Been trying to read more this year, happy to get some book recommendations if you got any!

- I'm kind of a nerd, I play video games, but I really love TTRPGs. Been working on my own, played lots of D&D and currently planning a Cyberpunk Red campaign!

- I'm trying to get in better shape and would love to share exercise goals with someone.

- I live... kind of in the middle of nowhere to be honest! There's been bear sightings nearby...

- I guess... right now I'm trying to figure out what I truly want in life. Which is strange to still say given I'm in my thirties now. Maybe we can talk about our goals and dreams, as cliche as that sounds?

Snail mail isn't super viable for me at the moment, but I'd be happy to move to email or just write longer messages on reddit chat. Whatever's most comfortable. If you're interested, shoot me a message, tell me about yourself! And if not, thanks for reading and I hope you find what you're looking for!