r/relationshipgoals

matched with someone last week and spent about three days trying to figure out why he seemed so familiar and then it hit me he's almost identical to my ex. same energy, sense of humor, way of deflecting when things get serious

the thing is I still have feelings for my ex, not "I want him back" feelings, more like "I know exactly how this person works and there's something comfortable about that" which I think might actually be worse than wanting him back

my ex was not a good partner and I know this, I've spent enough time in therapy unpacking exactly why, but apparently knowing something intellectually and being attracted to the same pattern anyway are two completely different things that can exist in the same brain simultaneously.

I matched back and we've been talking for five days and it's going well in a way that makes me nervous.

has anyone dated someone who was clearly a version of their ex and had it actually work out differently or does the pattern just repeat?