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met a dude on tinder….uh oh…..didn’t really expect anything serious. just wanted to get to know someone and see where it went and have fun. I haven’t dated or had sex since feb, we matched, went out to eat for the first “date” got me flowers…we made out in the car first date, turned into me giving him a hand job. I wanted to leave so bad. I was so tired and uncomfortable. told him I really had to go and he begged me to stay and help him finish so he didn’t go home with blue balls.
still continued to see him after…3rd time seeing him I went over to his house (an hr away) I didn’t want sex, what I did want was oral, kissing, cuddling, touch…we smoked weed and drank. I wanted to lay down with him and kiss and receive oral and give…one thing turned into another. he ends up fingering me super hard and I start crying…he’s confused…asking where he went wrong…then we get back into kissing…I take off my clothes expecting oral (he had sent me reels of being an “eater” comments of “u must taste so good I can’t wait to eat it” and he flips us into 69…didn’t enjoy it but just took it. we pause again bc I fuckinh queefed and he asked if I farted…felt embarrassed and we stopped. never got head by the way. I called him out and he got super defensive and said that he was trying his best and didn’t know how to really do it then got back into it…got on top of me, took his underwear off. was trying to put his penis inside me…I squirmed and shook my head…he said “just let me rub the tip.” but he kept trying to put it i felt fuckinh defeated. I drove an hr here…might as well just allow him to fuck me. I’m here in his bed…with my underwear on…he’s on top of me. I don’t wanna “kill” the vibe and have him reject me. i ask if he has a condom and he says no. if he does, they’re old as fuck he says and that he’ll just buy me a plan b..I just accept and he puts it in. I’m not happy with the choices I’ve made. Idk why I still continued seeing him. the next morning he’s not as affectionate…disconnected a bit. never mentions the plan b again…I leave around 1pm the next day…when I head out he asks me to text him when I get home and that I should drive safely. tells me he had a good time. luckily I bought a plan b before heading over. I knew sex could happen. i take the plan b. I don’t text him bc I felt so disconnected with myself and ashamed. I text the next morning asking if I could have money for a plan b to see if he’d take responsibility…he never replies. was active on playstation at 8pm when I had texted him that at 9:30am. I end up blocking him off everything. I develop symptoms of discharge and itching on tuesday…went to go get tested. turns out I have chlamidya. I’m fuckinh devastated….im young and stupid. any advice?
btw this dude had major porn brain. insisted on me calling him daddy kept asking who’s pussy this is, slapped me, choked me, took his both hands and shoved his fingers into my mouth. randomly asked turning sex if I wanted to be his gf??? kept asking me if I was his little slut??? worst fucking hookup ever.
has no job, lives w his parents, 24, parents make hella fucking money. smokes weed + cigs everyday and drinks.
Idk what I was thinking..

I recently found out my husband has been visiting prostitutes for years, sometimes two or three different women a week. We already have herpes, he gave it to me (disclosed at the beginning of the relationship and it turns out condoms don’t always prevent it) but is it possible to carry something and be asymptomatic? I do have a mild reoccurring yeast infection that I can’t seem to get rid of, but that might just be us passing it back and forth. Yes I am planning on getting tested, but what are the odds he’s been having sex with this many women for years and never caught anything? Im assuming he’s been passing on herpes to the women he’s hooking up with. Don’t know how common it is for sex workers to have stis, this is new territory for me. The women he sees run the gamut from rub and tug places to high end travelling escorts.

I had an hiv scare on August 31st tested 4th gen vein test 18 days later she was past the 90 day window so I had her take an ora hiv test it came back negative over 3 test so I believe I’m negative now here’s the problem now around October 8-10 I’ve been very very tired like overly bad tired I went to the dermatologist and almost passed out in my car at work I’m very tired just tired all the time with some slight dizziness I tested for gonorrhea and chlamydia
Same day I test my hiv test everything came back negative could this be caused by the intense stress of the entire month of September I was constantly jumping awake to check my body for symptoms of hiv and around October is when I started to relax but I can’t put my finger on it my body just feels off what should I do?

So for the last few weeks I’ve been feeling these symptoms can you guys help me

1 both sides of groin hurting feeling sore

2 jaw and lymph nodes tight only on right side

3 dots around armpit going up to chest

4 left side of upper quadrant hurting until I burp pass gas or go to bathroom

5 legs feel fatigued and sleeping more

So I got checked on 9/24/2026.

And they told me they would call me if anything looks abnormal.

Today 10/01/2026 I got called stating that my labs looked abnormal.
And they are sending my collection else where for further testing for HPV. My heart dropped immediately. I have a partner.

I have never cheated, I love this man, unconditionally.

I was in disbelief he cheated, or has. I never really catch him doing anything sketchy.

We do have a child.

I got tested during my pregnancy in the beginning No HPV.

I got tested after, no HPV was found.

And now I have HPV. We are always together, work together, sleep together. Everything.

They didn’t say I was positive but they stated they are sending it over for more testing.

I do want to mention maybe it was because I did have sex the day before testing. We have sex daily. And a lot.

But I don’t know, has anyone gone through this? TIA.

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Hey everyone

I recently completed an 8-day course of doxycycline (2 tablets a day) for another reason, and now I'm planning to get tested for chlamydia and gonorrhea.

My question is, how many days should I wait after finishing the antibiotics before getting tested to ensure accurate results?

I'm worried that taking doxycycline might affect the test results and give me a false negative.

Has anyone been in a similar situation or have any advice?

Thanks in advance!