r/transgender_support

I am looking for someone that's from the OKC area that would be willing to chat and answer some questions.

It is my turn to post about my sadness of being trapped. I finally came out to my wife and was pretty well received but she is not convinced. I actually came out to her a few years ago but didn’t tell her the extent of my feelings. I have told her that I would start hormones whenever she was ok with it and even came out to my doctor to see my options. We have done bloodwork and she has tailored HRT for me whenever I am ready. I am ready but my wife is not. I love her and will not intentionally hurt her so if she doesn’t want me to take hormones, I won’t. I also came out to my therapist and will be meeting with her about my feelings. I know they won’t go away at this point so I feel I need to do something. I will be ok if she says no but I will have to find an outlet for my feelings. It hurts so bad everyday to wake up and not be able to just be myself. To have to push those feelings down and force myself to get dressed in the same old clothes. I have to put on my cloak for the world and be who everyone wants me to be. See, same story, but thank you for listening to mine. 😔

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This is really hard to talk about I have this friend that is transitioning and she’s married when she got married what family she had stopped having anything to do with her so she has no friends no family no one to talk to but be in her head 247 the wife cheated on her so she can’t talk to her about anything without trust issues she worries so much about what’s going to happen if they divorce she has no where to go no car no job what’s going to happen it’s so hard not having some one there for the u and no can’t make any meet me apps Facebook any thing every thing she dose is closely monitored constantly going trough her phone she has no outlet or support and if she dose find it the wife’s friends have already found one of her profiles and reported it back to the wife she stays so paranoid and on edge has any one ever Ben trough this

A little background before I share, I haven't started HRT yet and wasn't wearing any makeup, and I live in the deep south.

The other day I had to go to the DMV to renew my driver's license. As my wife walk in we were greated by one of the ladies behind the counter. Her exact words were "Hello ladies, what can I help you with?". My heart literally lept for joy and I had the biggest and brightest smile on my face when I heard that. It truly reassured me that I am on the right path. I hope this brightens your day a little.

I recently came out to my wife that I am trans. I know I need to be patient and I have been so far. She has done my nails and my toes for me. Everything has been going fine. I even used Nair to get rid of all my body hair. I was on the phone with her today and sent her a picture and she said you’re wearing my shorts. I said yes I said I one of the ones we saw Walmart the other day and she said yeah, but you can only wear those at the house won’t look right out in public dress as a woman that really sent me over the edge. I’m trying not to overreact because I love my body. I know I have a beautiful body, but that almost felt like she called me ugly and I wanna go on Reddit and just upload body pics and do some hoe shit but I feel like that is way too far but my patience is breaking. She won’t even let me buy a bra yet it’s like we talk about it every day, but it never happens I guess it would be so bad if I hadn’t recently found out before I came out that she had cheated on me. I don’t know. I just have a lot on me right now and I’m scared. I’m going to do something stupid or cheat honestly, I feel like I deserve to be loved. I want attention to, but I feel like looking for it would be wrong. I stay horny all the fucking time I needs or never met. I don’t know. I’m sorry for the rain. I’m sure there’s people out there way worse off than I am.

I really want top done ASAP because I feel like the main thing i want is Flat, im not too worried about scars or nipples. But for bottom surgery I feel more nervous about the surgery itself, the results, the functions id be able to perform, the options available, etc. Lowkey scared that if I get it done and it doesn't come out awesome, and then what if like the next year some groundbreaking surgery drops that is everything I wanted but its too late for me then? Does anyone else feel this way? Or have you been able to work through it?