r/translesbianzz

Ive known i liked boys since i was 10 before i even knew i was trans and its been such a big part of me cos i struggled so much with it. It took me a while to ditch the gay label even after transitioning at 14. Ive never been into girls and ive never thought about being with a girl but i became friends with a trans woman and she told me she was into me and at first i just felt odd about it and just tried to ignore it but as she keeps on flirting and dropping little hints about being together im starting to reconsider and not to be dramaric but its kind of changing how i view my self. In my dysphoric mind being into women is like a man thing (i know this is obviously not true most of my friends are lesbians and i dont think that way about other trans women who are into women but it feel different for me) and it just makes me feel weird inside and its obviously something i need to challenge, but everytime she says something about us dating i start considering it more but in my mind there are so many cons to it that i know dont make sense but my brain keeps trying to convince me that theyre issues. Like getting married, ive always seen myself marrying a man and having kids with a man its like im trying to rewire my brain to give my self new life goals. Idk i feel like im not making sense i just wanted someone to talk to about this cos idk what to think or feel. Idk if anyone will read this but thank youuuuu if you do and id love some advice from some experianced trans lesbains lol. Also im very tired while writing this so sorry if it doesnt make sense

Edit- i feel like i didnt make it fully clear but im also a trans woman lol what i need help with is figuring out if i actually like her and how to feel okay with potentially being with her

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For girls who don't currently have friends but do have a partner: how did you meet? I’m not looking for a specific answer; I’m simply interested in reading about your experiences and learning about the different paths that led to your relationships.

My wife and I have been married for almost 12 years, I came out as trans and started hrt early last year, and she has been my emotional rock, and biggest supporter in my transition.

Today when we were cuddling on the couch teasing each other she whispered in my ear “who’s my good girl?” And y’all I fucking melted, I’d heard the words online and was never affected, but, when she said those words for the first time I fell apart and couldn’t speak for literal minutes. She found it great fun that she got such a big reaction.

Normally I’m more the top in our relationship, but in that instant I just wanted to the bottomest bottom to ever bottom for her, it’s been all day and just the memory of her saying that makes me flustered.

Haiii everyone! 💕

I joined this community because I want to learn more and become the best partner I can be.

My girlfriend came out as a trans woman earlier this year after years of talking about it privately as a couple, and she’s finally out to friends and the general public, but not family as of right now. We’ve been together for 7 years, so while this is a new chapter, we’ve been navigating it together for a long time, but only on the general aspects of it. Looking back, I think we really only scratched the surface because everything was still hypothetical.

Now that she’s started estrogen and T-blockers, we’re no longer talking about what might happen because now we actually get to experience it together. It’s honestly been such an exciting time watching her show more of herself every day and seeing how much happier and more confident she has become. Getting to watch the woman I love become more comfortable in her own skin has been really been making me cry everyday you guys- it has been the longest time coming for her.

One thing I’ve noticed is that our relationship dynamic has naturally shifted. Desire and intimacy have changed as well. We did talk about the potential changes beforehand, and she told me it doesn’t happen to everyone. I knew in my heart she didn’t want anything to affect us, and I didn’t either, but I also knew that over time things would probably change. I’d be lying if I said that didn’t scare me at first because it felt like such a big change after being together for so many years.

But we’ve learned to communicate more, lean into emotional intimacy, and spend more time simply holding each other. We’ve found new ways to show our love when we can, and it’s made me realize that love can look different while still being just as meaningful. It’s different from before, but in so many ways it’s brought us even closer, and I really want to understand these changes more so I can continue supporting her in the best way possible.

As her partner, what are some things I can do to better support her? What are some things you wish your current or future partner understood, considered, or did for you during your transition? It can be big or small just tell me anything! I genuinely just want to learn and be there for her in the ways that matter most. 💗