BF (26) is jealous of dead boyfriend, please read!!!
My last boyfriend died of a suicide/od. He and I had a fight and I loved him SO much but he had a hole in his heart nobody could mend. His brother had died the year prior to me meeting him and it destroyed him. My boyfriend was a wonderful, handsome, healthy, successful person. You'd never know he was going through what he was going through. I was blindsided by his death. Looking back there were signs but at the time I never thought he would risk something so drastic. We had a fight, I told him I didn't want to see him again (it was a stupid fight) and he said he'd make sure of it. He went to a sketchy motel and bought some powdered fentanyl, snorted it and he died that morning at age 27.
Now, 7 years later I have a new boyfriend and I'm pregnant with his child. It was an accident but I'm excited to have my first baby at 29 and I can't wait to meet her. My boyfriend has a child with another woman and that child is 4 now. There was some drama there as she is incredibly close with his family and was ask for money from him on top of the 700 in child support he pays. I sent her a message to please stop asking for money as he doesn't make much and we will need it for the new baby. He will continue to pay his full child support ofc but no more than that. I also asked her to please stop calling him everyday when he was at work as it made me incredibly uncomfortable. Texting about the child and the occasional call would be much more appropriate in my opinion. That lead to his family hating me and calling me names, telling him to leave me etc. It's been kind of really horrible. But I knew I couldn't stay in a relationship where his world revolved around his ex.
Anyways, I think because of that drama he has come to resent me. It caused his family to push him and I out of their lives and it's really sad for him. I'm not sure if it's because of this drama but he is always bring up my boyfriend who passed away and being really mean about him. Saying that he was my ex and that I need to let it go and yada yada. But most importantly he is saying I cannot post a yearly post honoring his memory anymore. He says if we are going to have a family he doesn't want me posting about another man. That he will leave me if I do. It makes me cry so hard I can't believe how cold he is being about something that I barely made it through. The mental anguish I experienced after my boyfriends death almost killed me, you can die from a broken heart and I almost did. I really wish he would be kind and understanding about my boyfriend who passed but he wants me to throw away any photos, delete any posts and completely forget he ever existed. He says he is worried that when we die I will go and be with my boyfriend who passed in heaven instead of him. To me this is all so much and so hurtful and so ridiculous. I don't know what to do. My baby is due in two months and I love him but between us family being awful and him being mean about the hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life I don't know if I can stay and be happy.