u/Historical_Type_9369

My last boyfriend died of a suicide/od. He and I had a fight and I loved him SO much but he had a hole in his heart nobody could mend. His brother had died the year prior to me meeting him and it destroyed him. My boyfriend was a wonderful, handsome, healthy, successful person. You'd never know he was going through what he was going through. I was blindsided by his death. Looking back there were signs but at the time I never thought he would risk something so drastic. We had a fight, I told him I didn't want to see him again (it was a stupid fight) and he said he'd make sure of it. He went to a sketchy motel and bought some powdered fentanyl, snorted it and he died that morning at age 27.

Now, 7 years later I have a new boyfriend and I'm pregnant with his child. It was an accident but I'm excited to have my first baby at 29 and I can't wait to meet her. My boyfriend has a child with another woman and that child is 4 now. There was some drama there as she is incredibly close with his family and was ask for money from him on top of the 700 in child support he pays. I sent her a message to please stop asking for money as he doesn't make much and we will need it for the new baby. He will continue to pay his full child support ofc but no more than that. I also asked her to please stop calling him everyday when he was at work as it made me incredibly uncomfortable. Texting about the child and the occasional call would be much more appropriate in my opinion. That lead to his family hating me and calling me names, telling him to leave me etc. It's been kind of really horrible. But I knew I couldn't stay in a relationship where his world revolved around his ex.

Anyways, I think because of that drama he has come to resent me. It caused his family to push him and I out of their lives and it's really sad for him. I'm not sure if it's because of this drama but he is always bring up my boyfriend who passed away and being really mean about him. Saying that he was my ex and that I need to let it go and yada yada. But most importantly he is saying I cannot post a yearly post honoring his memory anymore. He says if we are going to have a family he doesn't want me posting about another man. That he will leave me if I do. It makes me cry so hard I can't believe how cold he is being about something that I barely made it through. The mental anguish I experienced after my boyfriends death almost killed me, you can die from a broken heart and I almost did. I really wish he would be kind and understanding about my boyfriend who passed but he wants me to throw away any photos, delete any posts and completely forget he ever existed. He says he is worried that when we die I will go and be with my boyfriend who passed in heaven instead of him. To me this is all so much and so hurtful and so ridiculous. I don't know what to do. My baby is due in two months and I love him but between us family being awful and him being mean about the hardest thing I've ever dealt with in my life I don't know if I can stay and be happy.

My and ex and I have a toxic awful relationship and we've both said stupid things. Is him saying I did something and me responding with this evidence he can use that I threatened to kill someone? It was a dumb statement I said in a fit of rage, I'd never hurt anyone. But now I'm worried he's going to use this.

I drank about 64 OZ of water in 1 hour. I peed a LOT. Im 5'5 150 pound Female, 29 yrs. I think I'm okay but I was feeling slightly dizzy a few hours ago. Its been about 4 hours since I drank all that water and I feel pretty normal. Just anxious. I'm worried I gave myself hypotranemia. I'm also 5 months pregnant. I ate some salty foods, fries, half a burger, some chips and I took a couple sips of Gatorade.

My boyfriend who I loved very much died by suicide/OD in 2019. He was super athletic and academically gifted, handsome, hilarious and so wonderful you'd never expect it from a person like him. His brother was a bit of a drug addict but also a wonderful person and died by OD a year before I met my boyfriend. My boyfriend dealt with a lot grief over the death of his brother and decided to try it and find out what all the hype was about. He OD'd in the back of a taxibut was revived at the hospital. Afterwards his parents insisted he come home and get better. I met him a year later. When I asked him why he did it he said he wanted to know what his brother felt and that he was also severely depressed because his gf of 5 years had cheated on him. He was living at his parents and drinking quite a bit and so were they. They were all a bit destroyed by the death of his brother. Fast forward a year later and we're still together but things were rough. We fought a lot, I had an abortion and got a new job where I didn't see him much. He became very depressed again. One day he and I got into a fight and I told him I never wanted to see him again. He said he'd make sure of that and went to buy a bag of fentanyl, snorted it and died. It destroyed me, I love him so very much even though things were not perfect.

Now 7 years later I've met someone (26M) and I thought I really loved him at first. I got pregnant just 2 months into us dating. On accident. He already has a child (4F) with someone and it didn't work out because he watched porn so she left him. She took him to court and he had to pay thousands to get partial custody and see the child. His family has been so mean and awful about me because they feel their son has made a mistake again by getting me pregnant. The ex and them are close now after all the court drama has passed and she is over at his parents often. This upsets me and she has said and done some disrespectful things such as calling him every day about unnecessary things and also occasionally asking for money. I asked her to pls stop calling unless it's an emergency and to use the 800 dollars she gets in child support and stop asking him for extra money as he doesn't make much and we are going to have a baby.

His parents became furious because I did that and he stopped answering her calls. He texted her and said please just text me about our child and only call if it's an emergency and she went and told his parents and now his parents are calling me names and saying my family is trash due to differing political views etc. the relationship has been so stressful because of those people. His sister had a wedding and I wasn't allowed to go because she said it wasn't appropriate that I was pregnant. His ex threw their child's birthday party at his parents and I wasn't allowed to go. I can't imagine having a baby with this man I love and him attending events in not allowed to go to because I asked him to establish reasonable boundaries. In my opinion it's wrong.

It's caused a lot of drama and we have said some terrible things to each other. I'm not innocent but I think I have a right to be upset. My family has been nothing but kind to him but his has been awful to me so I've said some hurtful things. In response he flies off the handle and calls me a cunt, threatens to take the baby when she's born and threatens the police and other crazy things. I never do these things. I have said hurtful things but I keep my cool for the most part. Be

Because our relation was so bad I was considering abortion and he lost it. He accused me of killing our baby if I do so and told his family and ex he wanted me dead. His ex texted these things to him. So I found out he said them.

Today he was moving out of his house and we got into an argument about his parents and I stupidly said I wouldn't care if they dropped dead. ( I shouldn't have I know) But his parents have said so much worse about me and never met me. He then called me a cunt because I said that. I left and he tried not letting me leave but I eventually was able to.

He's now been threatening to kill himself all day and I don't know what to do. He's been texting things saying goodbye and not to come to his funeral and a whole bunch of crazy things. I'm so stressed. I went over there to check on him but he tried stealing my keys so I couldn't leave. I got them back and went home. I'm so upset. He calls me a cunt every time we get into a fight. I can't do this anymore. I got in trouble for drinking and driving last year and I've got so much I'm dealing with. I'm in a sober treatment program for two years and I'm just trying to get through life with some peace but this has been Hell. On top of everything I'm 22 weeks pregnant. I have been so stressed this whole pregnancy. I know this is where a lot of you will turn on me but I am considering abortion again as my state aborts up to 24 weeks. I feel so horrible. I want this baby. But I don't think bringing a baby into a situation like this is right. I think he might kill himself truly as he has been threatening it heavily the last two weeks. I'm at my wits end. I almost want to kill MYself because of all this stress. I can't imagine it's God for the baby. Please, any advice is appreciated.

I (29f) am 16 weeks pregnant with a little girl. My bf (26m) already has a child from a previous relationship. It ended badly but eventually his parents became close with her after a long court battle trying to help their son get at least 20% custody. He was caught by her watching p*RN and she ended things. Fast forward two years after court battle and his parents watch the 4 year old all the time and his ex even threw the kids bday party at his mother's house. It really bothers me that they're so close with his ex. She was constantly calling him and asking for money and texting unnecessary things so I messaged her and asked her to please stick to texting only about the child when necessary and calling only for emergencies. She got mad and told his mother and now his whole family hates me even though they never have met me.

Him and I have been together 6 months. He got me pregnant 3 months into dating (I know I was being irresponsible) and his mother told him to pay me child support and leave me. He loves me so much. But I can't get over the fact that his family constantly talks crap about me and now his sisters wedding is coming up and she explicitly told him he can't bring me. I hate that he already had a child from someone who is so still intertwined in his life and I can't stand that his family is so mean. His mother also went on to Facebook stalk me family and call them libtards among other things because of political posts. I don't lean either way, politics are stupid. I told my family I'm pregnant and they're so excited, they like my boyfriend. But I'm starting to panic and think I really want to not do this anymore.

On top of that I just got a really good job off with a wildfire company and can make really good money this summer if I have the abortion. I don't think it's something I can do pregnant without risking harm to the baby. I'm already 16 weeks and can get in for a surgical abortion in 3 days. I am so torn. I want a baby but not with someone who has prior obligations to another child they've had with an ex who I've met and do not like. Who also has a family that does not like me. It all seems so wrong. I have never met his child because I've been so torn on what to do. Please, I need advice. Part of me is afraid I'll regret this because I truly love him so much but I think a bigger part of me knows I'll be relieved because I want to be with a partner I can move and travel with. Not one who has a child and pays a bunch in child support. He has his child every other weekend and every Tuesday. It's too much for me. Please help, any advice is appreciated.