Thoughts needed after 2nd date
(40F) Went on 2 dates with a guy (45M) from an online dating app.
First date was great, attraction from my side to him felt like a 6/10. In terms of values and goals we align. We went out for casual burgers, he paid.
Second date felt flat, less playful, but I was still wondering if it's worth going on a 3rd date. We went out for a walk and grabbed some food and a drink. We took turns paying. I had plans to meet my friends after the 2nd so I quickly left and there's been no kissing etc. That works for me because I'm still getting to know him.
As the days went by I hadn't heard from him and It made me less interested in reaching out.
I figured it was a sign we've got nothing to talk about or say to, it's probably not a match and he doesn't seem interested anyways.
10 days later he texts me and asks where I disappeared.
I sent a long explanation, saying that I thought the lack of communication from him meant he's not interested, but I went out of my way to be fully honest and a bit vulnerable.
I guess his communication style is super blunt. He said:
'Thanks for that explanation. So you just misread the situation and left it. Lol makes perfect sense. Luckily for you it’s my bday so it gives you ample opportunity to consider ideas to make up for it.'
My knee jerk reaction isn't great. What are your thoughts or what would you do?