what do you think his intentions are?
OK, so last year I had met this guy and me and my friend went on a call with him with his friend and we were having fun. You know it wasn’t anything serious and stuff but then we started messaging. Let’s call this guy cookie so me and cookie started messaging privately and at first you know we had only known each other for a couple of hours so we kept going on calls and you know trying to get to know each other and he started talking to me about his favorite music and stuff and we realized we had a lot of music in common that we like, so on Spotify we did a Spotify blend and we had like a 96% match of songs that we both like and have in our favorites, so a day later, we went on another call, and mind you he is younger than me so that’s like a really bad thing but he’s only a couple months younger so it’s not that big of an age gap, but I still feel weird about it anyways literally two days later after knowing each other, he confesses his love to me and I’m not talking about a crush and you know harmless joke no full on I love you and I can’t live without you and you’re my soulmate and whatever, and I do not do relationships like at all I don’t date, I’ve never been in a talking stage. Well I have but it’s not that big of a deal you know and so after he confesses his love, he’s like I’ll wait for you and stuff like I’ll wait years for you and I’m like I do not date and I’ve told him before when we were on a call like I don’t date I don’t do relationships. I don’t do that type of stuff and then he’s like yeah I know, but I would literally wait years for you like you don’t get it and I felt really sketchy about this whole thing so I told him that I’m not gonna be in a relationship with you like not now, not ever I don’t see us working out and you know that I don’t do relationships he’s like yeah but if we’re both single in like 10 years, I want us to start talking again and see if the relationship could go somewhere and honestly, I was just like you know what OK like I don’t even know what to say. Mind you like a couple hours before this we were on call he was screen sharing, and he broke up with this girl while screen sharing so mind you he had broken up a couple hours before this and I didn’t even know what to make of that. He kept on saying I love your voice. I love your energy like ever since I heard your voice two days ago. It’s like love at first sight and he hasn’t even seen my face like he doesn’t know if I’m a catfish. He doesn’t know if I’m trolling him he doesn’t know any of that he’s just going based off my voice and my voice is not even appealing like I don’t sound girly. I don’t sound confident, I don’t have a voice that’s for the male appeal. You know what I mean, so anyways I felt really bad about the whole thing I had like weird vibes going on and I did not know what to make of it because he told me he’s dated a lot of women especially older women like he’s been a victim of a lot of older women and I told him like dude you’re a victim and then he’s like no I like it when they’re older oh my gosh anyways I did not know if this was actually him confessing or if it was a trick to try to get me on his roster so I told him like hey I can’t do this and I blocked him on everything and yeah this year actually a couple months ago I randomly remembered him and I was like let me see how he’s doing, but I remembered I had blocked him on everything so I tried seeing the blocked account on Instagram and his account was deleted and so I went on the place that we met and his account was also deleted but his friend’s account that we were in a call with me and my friend was still there, so i decided to message him and be like hey what’s going on, after he replied i asked him about cookie and if he has a new account and whatnot so the friend decided to make a gc of me, him, and cookie. We started talking in the gc and whatever but cookie wasn’t online yet, after he became online i started talking to him in the gc and he said that he remembered me and we should talk in priv. After talking in private we decided to take the conversation back to instagram. We started talking again and stuff it was really chill yk, we decided to call again to catch up and stuff. A couple months later we’re still friends, talking everyday, and i thought that we would still be friends yk no feelings and whatever, BUT one day me and my friend called him together and he was acting really off and i couldn’t pinpoint what was wrong with him, so after the call ended i asked him what was wrong, he said nothing i js like it better when we call alone i said okay that’s valid so next time we called it was alone. A week later id say my friend added her hb to the gc and her, her hb, cookie, and me all called on the gc and i honestly felt like it was really fun. But one thing that stuck out to me was that whenever i’d try talking to my friends hb cookie would try cutting me off, and whenever i’d try asking the hb questions, the hb would say oh why don’t you answer first then i’ll answer your question, so i answered first not thinking much of it then out of nowhere cookie started saying nah she’s lying she’s js saying that to get an answer out of you, and i got genuinely pissed off cus like why are you trying to stop him from answering a question that i asked him ykwim? anyways i left the call and cookie texted me saying “you had fun in the call?” i said “honestly, no. whenever i tried asking the her hb questions or just talking to him in general you’d always cut me off or get him not to answer my questions which i found really odd.” he proceeded to say “oh i did?” like dude yk you did wtf? anyways i said “yes you did” he said “oh mb i didn’t realize, next time ill let you talk to him. i just found it funny how u lied abt your answer to get him to answer it.” i then said “i didnt lie about any of the answers i told him.” i didnt reply after that because i genuinely so mad, even though it was something small, i was still pissed off. The next morning he says wanna call? i said i can probably call tonight and he says alr cant wait, i ask him you wanna call in the gc or in private? he says in private so that i can focus only on you. I didn’t know how to feel abt that so i just said OK. That night i was really busy and couldn’t call so i told him and he said yeah it’s fine let’s call tmrw. Tomorrow comes and i started asking him questions about the call again and after i finish asking him questions he says are you done with the questions? i say yeah thats all for now. He then says so it’s either you asking me questions or complete silence? i said yeah pretty much and he says alr text me if u have anymore questions. I was sending my friend all the ss of what was happening and she told me to flirt with him and whatnot to see if he still had feelings for me. So i said anything to keep your attention, after that we started flirting back and forth, and i do admit i sent the ss to my friend because i needed her opinion to see if he has feelings or if he’s just doing it for fun. She said she thinks he has feelings for me and i said idk guess we’ll find out. The next morning i open instagram and see his note to a love song and i was like is this about me? as a joke but he acc said yeah it is. I was flabbergasted. so then he wanted to call i said idk i might not call cus i might be w my roster ykwim? he said i hope your roster is as strong as mine. i said oh so you do have a roster? he said nah i don’t. (forgot to mention when we started talking i asked him about last year when he confessed his love to me if it was real or if it was all a game to get me into his roster. he said no it was all real i never had a roster) so after that he started acting really weird and he would barely reply so i asked my friend to text him on instagram while me and her were on a call. he said he felt disrespected when i joked abt having a roster because he had been waiting all this time for me (while fully knowing i don’t do relationships) and i was acc in shock because i didn’t know that he genuinely felt disrespected. so i texted him privately, took accountability for what i did, apologized, and told him i hope we can still be friends. he said yeah id like to be friends as well but i might need time to see if i still wanna wait for you and i said yeah that’s completely valid. At this point it was 6 am so i decided to say good night and went to sleep. I woke up to see his note was a name (not gonna say the name) with a red heart next to it. i didn’t ask him about it because i felt like it would give him satisfaction so i left it alone. last week was my birthday and he didn’t wish me a happy birthday so i texted him as a joke saying oh so no happy birthday for me? at 11 pm. He responded saying don’t spoil the surprise I’ll give u the gift when im home. i was like woah what gift?? He said just have patience i’ll show u when im home. so i said okay. I fell asleep and didn’t get to see what he made me. so when i woke up i texted him hey sorry i fell asleep im ready for the gift now. he sends me a link so i open it, it was a full essay talking abt how much he enjoys my company, how he doesn’t know what we are and if we will ever be something, how much he looks forwards to us talking even if it’s about the stupidest stuff. Then he made me a playlist of songs that remind him of me, how he feels about me, and things that remind him of US. he then proceeds to send me pics of bouquets of flowers (plural). One that he got because it was pretty, one that he got with dark red flowers (my fav color), beige flowers (his fav color), and white (for purity). i was genuinely in tears and honestly shocked that he did all this for me. I thanked him over and over showing how much i appreciate it. The upcoming week we talked everyday flirted everyday, but i didn’t like flirting because it felt like something romantic and stuff so i tried avoiding the flirting whenever possible, he now says everyday how much he missed me, how things reminded him of me, and romantic stuff which i try avoiding as much as possible because one thing about me, when someone shows they care for me (especially a man) i try distancing myself as much as possible, idek why it’s like my brain tellls me “oh they don’t care about you, they’re doing this for fun, they don’t mean anything they say” which im trying to work on but it isn’t working. i probably missed a lot of details because i am typing this in a hurry.
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