Fight with my husband NC 10 days
HELP!
Me and my husband had a major fight 10 days ago (it always starts off over petty things) eventually it increases because of our anxious and avoidant styles. I want to fix it right away he wants to take space and time. We live in with in laws so it gets more awkward to a point they start asking what’s happened which spirals more. I keep trying to fix it he gets more annoyed at that and gets rude then I get angry and it just continues in this cycle (only realised now this is a clash of coping mechanisms)
Anyway
Had a fight that got heated I left and came to my parents he went and told his mum about our fight she also got annoyed at me. My SIL went and kicked off with them and said you all got involved you make her feel like this etc and my husband kind of realised and called my mum and said it gotten so out of control give me time. Left it there
I’ve been trying to contact him so we can talk and he’s just constantly blocking me, ignoring me. Been so long he’s not even letting me speak to him or him speak to me, I mentioned I can see from the home cameras he’s just getting about his day he’s removed me from them.. he’s just acting like he’s the victim and only I am the bad guy, he never sees his fault.
Now he does have narcissistic traits. In the past twice I have non stop begged and pleaded for him to speak to me and after making me beg and grovel he’s given in. This time first time I have not continuously chased him and I feel like he’s getting more mad at that. I refuse to because I just can’t be bothered but obviously I want to save my marriage but I don’t want to beg for him to act right, I feel like 10 days with no contact is pushing me away I feel like he doesn’t care and his ego matters to him more than his wife.
Except for leaving him what on earth do I do.