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The Indian “Corporate Slavery” Mindset Needs to End

I sometimes wonder when we stopped being professionals and started behaving like corporate subjects.

There is a deeply unhealthy mindset in parts of the Indian corporate ecosystem — and consulting is not immune to it.

It looks like:

• Bootlicking being mistaken for leadership.
• Office politics being rewarded more than competence.
• Favouritism being confused with performance.
• Staying late being seen as commitment, even when the work could have been finished efficiently hours earlier.
• Working on weekends becoming an unspoken expectation — and taking your personal time being treated as a lack of dedication.
• Constantly being asked to “show presence” in the office even when the work, collaboration and outcomes are already being delivered.
• People being judged not by what they deliver, but by how visible they are and whom they are close to.

And perhaps the most disturbing part is what happens when we interact with our Onshore counterparts.

Why do we suddenly become less confident?

Why do we hesitate to challenge an idea simply because it came from someone sitting in another country?

Why do we automatically assume that they know better?

Why do we tolerate behaviour from an Onshore colleague that we would never tolerate from a colleague sitting beside us?

We need to stop confusing geography with hierarchy.

Working from the US, UK, Europe or any other geography does not automatically make someone more capable, more intelligent or more important.

We are professionals.

We bring expertise, experience, judgement and years of hard work to the table.

Yet somewhere along the way, many of us have developed an inferiority complex — constantly trying to please, constantly trying to prove ourselves, constantly trying to follow the herd.

And the system feeds on it.

Don’t question.
Don’t disagree.
Don’t leave on time.
Don’t say no.
Don’t set boundaries.
Don’t take weekends seriously.
Don’t challenge your manager.
Don’t challenge Onshore.
Don’t be the person who “isn’t flexible.”

Just comply.

And then we call it “professionalism.”

It isn’t.

Professionalism is delivering what you committed to.
Professionalism is accountability.
Professionalism is respecting other people’s time.
Professionalism is having difficult conversations.
Professionalism is being able to say no when something is unreasonable.
Professionalism is respecting boundaries.
Professionalism is judging people by outcomes, not hours spent staring at a laptop.

We also need to stop glorifying toxicity.

Sending messages at midnight isn’t leadership.

Expecting responses over weekends isn’t dedication.

Making people feel guilty for taking leave isn’t ownership.

Demanding unnecessary office presence isn’t collaboration.

And treating people differently because of who they know, where they sit, or how much they flatter the right person isn’t meritocracy.

The biggest change, however, has to happen within us.

We need to stop thinking small of ourselves.

Stop putting people on a pedestal because they are Onshore.

Stop believing that someone else’s accent is a measure of their intelligence.

Stop assuming that disagreement is disrespect.

Stop believing that working longer automatically means working harder.

Stop sacrificing self-respect to look “committed.”

And stop following the herd simply because everyone else is doing it.

A healthy organisation should not require people to surrender their self-respect, identity, personal boundaries or family time to prove their loyalty.

We should be able to say:

“I have delivered my work. I am logging off.”

And not feel guilty about it.

We should be able to say:

“I disagree.”

And not fear the consequences.

We should be able to tell an Onshore stakeholder:

“That approach will not work. Here is a better one.”

And say it with confidence.

Because ultimately, we are not second-class professionals.

We don’t need to be someone’s corporate servant to be successful.

We need competence over compliance.
Performance over politics.
Confidence over inferiority.
Boundaries over burnout.
And self-respect over bootlicking.

Maybe the real transformation Indian corporate culture needs isn’t another leadership workshop.

Maybe it starts with employees collectively deciding that being professional does not mean being submissive.

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Just want some genuine honest opions

So I have a good female colleague (friend) of mine in office same department also we sit just next to each other, it’s been more than 7 months in the same office we talk a lot we know about each other stories. We go for dinner many a times.

So there was a new year party in my office……we all were enjoying,me and my female friend we just sat at a corner with our drinks [ she was having her mojito and I was having my whiskey] 1-suddenly the founder of the company came and said that why are you guys not enjoying the party, you guys are together in the office also why are you not mingling with others. Then we gave our response which was quite decent that we just came to the party we will come join for dance soon. 2- Then after dancing 2 hrs with all the office friends, me and my friend just sat on the sofa for dinner then there was research manager ( female) who sat beside us and said that are you guys dating, my response was clear that no we are not then ( she was overly drunk) then she said to my friend that why not you show his picture to your boyfriend and say him hey get lost I have a cute guy here. At that time I was just trying to shut her up but as she was too drunk she was out of control. 3- After that out of a sudden she ( manager) ask me a question that I like her ( my female friend) or not “ I said yes offc but as a good friend” then she stops and she went. 4- But the main thing happened after 1 day of leave, we came to office on Monday where my friend just ask me that what was that on Saturday night party I said what, she said mtlb do you like me! I said yes but as a good friend, the she said that you know my so called boyfriend ( actually they are not in a relationship they are in a situationship also I very well know about there physical relation) “so my boyfriend used to say the same thing when we were not dating that I like you a friend”

My question is that am I doing something wrong if I confess my feelings to her in future because at present I don’t have such feelings for her, like I care about her, yes iam attach to her no doubt but that’s just an attachment nothing else.

So the thing is if I confess her that I really like not like a friend but as good partner then she will think that every boy is same and don’t want to be that such creep example in her life.