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Women have always questioned the idea of marriage

By the eighteenth and nineteenth centuries, women writers increasingly articulated a direct critique of marriage. Mary Astell’s Some Reflections upon Marriage (1700) questioned why women were expected to submit to husbands and argued that women were often pushed into marriage without meaningful freedom of choice.

Mary Wollstonecraft, John Stuart Mill and Harriet Taylor, Emma Goldman, and later Simone de Beauvoir all challenged different aspects of marriage: women’s legal dependency, unpaid domestic labor, sexual double standards, economic vulnerability, and the treatment of marriage as women’s primary destiny. Feminist objections have historically focused on the fact that marriage was not simply a private romance but also a legal and economic institution in which women often had fewer rights.

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u/Maximum_Walt — 3 days ago
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Afghan women in 2026

Video credit: BBC News

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Between 6 and 8 June, at least 30 women were arrested in Herat for wearing “improper hijab”. Days later, the de facto Ministry of Hajj and Religious Affairs announced that “observing hijab” would be the topic of the sermon on 19 June.

Imams received a 10-page document explaining that a hijab should cover the entire body except the eyes, be loose and thick and contain no adornments or fragrance.

During the reporting period, shops and health clinics were instructed not to allow women to enter without a male guardian, or mahram.

In April, the authorities issued a new Code on Judicial Separation of Spouses, which makes a woman’s marriage dependent on her guardian’s permission.  

u/Maximum_Walt — 4 days ago
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Have you noticed men using 'religion' as a tool to control women, not guide them?

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, and I need to get it off my chest.

There's a pattern I keep noticing: some men push their wives, girlfriends, or daughters toward a more "religious" or conservative lifestyle — not out of genuine faith, but as a way to control them. Dress a certain way, stay home more, don't go out as much, don't build a career, don't have opinions that don't come from him. It's not framed as control, it's framed as piety or "protection." But underneath it, the goal is the same: keep her small, keep her dependent, keep her inside four walls.

And the scary part is how effective it is. A lot of women end up boxing in their own thinking without even realizing someone else built the box. They stop imagining a life outside the house, outside the role they were handed. Not because they're incapable — because the space to think bigger was slowly taken away from them.

I want to be clear about something: I fully believe every woman has the right to choose how she wants to live — religious, conservative, liberal, whatever. That's her call, and it's a valid one either way. What I have a problem with is when that choice isn't really a choice — when it's manipulation dressed up as tradition or devotion, and a man is engineering it to serve his own control, not her wellbeing or belief.

I've seen this happen close to me, and it's infuriating to watch someone you care about get talked into shrinking their own life by "advice" that's really just a leash with better branding.

Curious if others have noticed this pattern too, or if I'm just seeing it everywhere now that I've spotted it once.

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u/Maximum_Walt — 14 days ago