u/-Happy-Human-

Am I being unreasonable? I keep being made to feel like I am.

I live in Florida. We’re getting married in Italy. When searching for seaside weddings, I found the location on the planner’s website so obvs we hired her.

I am very thankful to have her assistance, but there have been many times where I’ve been made to feel like I’m being unreasonable OR whatever basic request I have, is just something that they don’t do in Italy.

**The requests for details that I’ve made thus far:
- Sample menus. There are different price tiers. I would like to see examples of what the chef will prepare to decide which we like best. Asked multiple times to choose which tier, but told only generally what is served. *Asking for a sample menu, advising of allergies/dislikes, etc. These are important to me. Why pay an additional $1000-3000+ if it’s not worth it to us?! Or equally important, do we even like what’s on the menu?*

- Flowers. I was told the florist plans to use 4 flowers and 4 colors from my palette. ALL of the flowers have multiple varieties of each and come in different colors. All flowers have to be imported so we’re not using locally sourced unfortunately. I have a generic list of what will be included (bouquet, arch, centerpieces, etc). I don’t expect that the mockup / examples of previous work will be identical to the final design, but even asking for this,
I was told that is not something they do in Italy. Am I crazy?! Do ZERO brides in Italy want to see their flowers before the wedding?!**

Part of me feels guilty even just for posting this, but I would like to know if you all think I’m being unreasonable in my requests? AND how do I discuss how I’ve felt while being polite and respectful, but direct?

Am I being unreasonable? I keep being made to feel like I am.

I live in Florida. We’re getting married in Italy. When searching for seaside weddings, I found the location on the planner’s website so obvs we hired her.

I am very thankful to have her assistance, but there have been many times where I’ve been made to feel like I’m being unreasonable OR whatever basic request I have, is just something that they don’t do in Italy.

The requests for details that I’ve made thus far:
- Sample menus. There are different price tiers. I would like to see examples of what the chef will prepare to decide which we like best. Asked multiple times to choose which tier, but told only generally what is served. *Asking for a sample menu, advising of allergies/dislikes, etc. These are important to me. Why pay an additional $1000-3000+ if it’s not worth it to us?! Or equally important, do we even like what’s on the menu?*

- Flowers. I was told the florist plans to use 4 flowers and 4 colors from my palette. ALL of the flowers have multiple varieties of each and come in different colors. All flowers have to be imported so we’re not using locally sourced unfortunately. I have a generic list of what will be included (bouquet, arch, centerpieces, etc). I don’t expect that the mockup / examples of previous work will be identical to the final design, but even asking for this,
I was told that is not something they do in Italy. Am I crazy?! Do ZERO brides in Italy want to see their flowers before the wedding?!

Part of me feels guilty even just for posting this, but I would like to know if you all think I’m being unreasonable in my requests? AND how do I discuss how I’ve felt while being polite and respectful, but direct?

Am I being unreasonable? I keep being made to feel like I am.

I live in Florida. We’re getting married in Italy. When searching for seaside weddings, I found the location on the planner’s website so obvs we hired her.

I am very thankful to have her assistance, but there have been many times where I’ve been made to feel like I’m being unreasonable OR whatever basic request I have, is just something that they don’t do in Italy.

The requests for details that I’ve made thus far:
- Sample menus. There are different price tiers. I would like to see examples of what the chef will prepare to decide which we like best. Asked multiple times to choose which tier, but told only generally what is served. *Asking for a sample menu, advising of allergies/dislikes, etc. These are important to me. Why pay an additional $1000-3000+ if it’s not worth it to us?! Or equally important, do we even like what’s on the menu?*

- Flowers. I was told the florist plans to use 4 flowers and 4 colors from my palette. ALL of the flowers have multiple varieties of each and come in different colors. All flowers have to be imported so we’re not using locally sourced unfortunately. I have a generic list of what will be included (bouquet, arch, centerpieces, etc). I don’t expect that the mockup / examples of previous work will be identical to the final design, but even asking for this,
I was told that is not something they do in Italy. Am I crazy?! Do ZERO brides in Italy want to see their flowers before the wedding?!

Part of me feels guilty even just for posting this, but I would like to know if you all think I’m being unreasonable in my requests? AND how do I discuss how I’ve felt while being polite and respectful, but direct?