My 3.5 year old is peeing the bed every night and peeing her underwear every day. Any advice?
Shes an only child and knows how to pee and poop in the potty, she can even do it on her own, but she either is lazy or gets too focused on her toys and just goes. At this point it feels like we've been trying to potty train her for over a year. My wife and I have begun scolding her because at first we were telling her it was ok when she soiled herself so she wouldn't get stressed, but her daycare teacher told us to stop that, saying it was regressing her. She started daycare about 6 months ago. She also told us to be firmer with her.
Maybe my wife and I just aren't stressing her enough. We're the opposite in that regard. Once I had her in her baby chair crying for about 45 minutes because she refuses to eat meat at all. She still refuses today. My wife found out and was pissed at me. She's the opposite, she asks my daughter what she wants, and is really struggling with being firm.
My dad says it doesn't matter who's right or wrong, kids are complicated and you just do what works. Our daycare teacher is stressing it because in August my daughter is supposed to move to the next age class but likely won't because she still isn't potty trained.
It's weird because my daughter is way ahead academically. She can count to 100 and last night read a 1st grade book almost herself.
We're tired of washing soiled clothes and her bedsheets every night and are stressed over our daycare teachers expectations. My wife wants to just put pullups on her at night, but the daycare teacher told us no more pullups ever.
Should we take away toys? Should we put her in timeout if she soils herself?