Does anybody else withdraw contact from their mutual(s) after you stop being friends with someone who just wasn't the right person for you to be friends with
I wouldn't go into the details of the ex-friend but they treated me badly enough to not wanting to be friends with them or any mutual. I withdrew contact from my mutual(s) because it makes me feel uncomfortable as I can not be authentic with them as I used to be before and on a side note to protect peace more importantlybburning any bridges that could potentially lead me to the "ex-friend". For me, loyalty is a baseline requirement for friendship. It’s too emotionally draining to stay connected to people who try to remain neutral unwilling to know what things have happened when a clear line has been crossed.
I'm thinking about this because the mutuals have been consistently reaching out- one of them via calls (haven't heard from them for a little more than 6 months now) and other via texts (until very recently). One remains neutral and unbothered, willing to be friends but unwilling to learn what went wrong. The other simply reaching out with the classic "I want to catch up" texts and then doesn't ask any questions whatsoever like they'd just catch the ball and not do anything with it. They might hate me for this but I've just been avoiding them. For someone like me who takes friendships seriously, it kind of hurts to be in this situation.