u/0nlyhalfjewish

I have two siblings that are 14 and 9 years older than me. We are all adults with kids and some grandkids at this point. The two older siblings are much closer, having grown up together. In addition, the second oldest looks up to his sister. At least I see it that way.

We are on a group chat and the two older ones just gush toward each other. Their kids, their accomplishments, anything they share. Lots of love and responses. Their exchanges are a stark contrast to what I get, which is much more straightforward. Now, I don’t gush about them, either, but it’s because 1) I’m just not that person and 2) when I have tried in the past, it falls flat.

How do I accept this? It feels bad, but I don’t think I can change it or should even address it with them.

I’ve almost always used the same shade of Revlon colorsilk, but decided a few months ago to go lighter. I’ve used a new color twice on my roots, also colorsilk, and my scalp has been itchy for many days now.

Could their formulas really be that different from shade to shade that I would have an allergic reaction to one and not another?

We separated when the kids were 6 and 8. They took it fine and while they had some issues, I don’t think they came from the divorce. My ex and I co-parented ok, never put the kids in the middle of any issues we may have had, equal time and custody, no issues with child support. But my kids have struggled with grades and being responsible.

I know another divorced couple where the dad is a jerk, doesn’t pay child support, and the kids don’t like being with him. It’s not equal custody, as he has them every other weekend at most. And those kids all have amazing grades and will be going to their pick of school.

Sharing in case you’ve been struggling with your kids during/after divorce. Do the best you can and hang in there!!