My husband sits on the computer for 12+ hours a day
My(34f) husband (35m) plays video games every single day all day long. He has bipolar 2, autism, adhd is medicated for it/ sees a psychologist. Before living together I didn’t know he was like this, assuming he masked it but once we moved in together (3 years ago) it started becoming an issue. He wakes up at 9am, gets on the computer, logs into his job and plays until 9-10pm then comes to bed. Sometimes he’ll be on the computer very late into the night. The only time we spend together is at bedtime or if I sit in the office with him. He doesn’t do any housework, shopping, cooking, etc unless I ask him to and even then it doesn’t happen sometimes. I was able to quit my toxic 80 hr work week and get an easy part time job bc he pays for almost everything which makes me feel guilty like maybe I should just accept this life. He bought me a truck and funds my rescue farm. He did buy me the life I’ve always wanted so I just accept his addiction. I don’t hate being on my own all the time but I do get very lonely and it kinda sucks for my self esteem that he doesn’t put any effort into our relationship other than buying things. Idk what to think anymore. Idk what to do. I don’t feel loved or cared for. He’s never mean or loud or rude. I like that. I just feel like I’m just living this life alone rather than a partnership. I do talk to him about how I feel probably once a month or so in a non confrontational way and he listens and changes for a day or two then it’s back to his old ways. I don’t want to ask for him to make effort all the time. I don’t want to ask for help. I don’t want to ask for attention. Idk what I wanted to gain by doing this but it feels good to write it all out. Advice, input, different perspectives all welcome.