u/24sevenOVERTHINKER

22F here!
I thought the reason for my lack of romantic approaches was "Oh, I'm just ugly". But turned out even unconventionally pretty people or average looking ones get approached cause well...beauty is indeed subjective. But when it comes to me, I doubted everything. I thought maybe it's my energy. Maybe it's the way I carry myself. Maybe it's the way I dress.
Maybe it's the environment or how easier for men nowadays to approach women through social media rather than risk face to face rejection. I even thought maybe they're intimidated
I am someone who doesn't really get compliments. But when I thought about it the commonest reaction from strangers (girls) is "oh! You sure you're 22?! I genuinely thought you're 16 or something" or if they wanna be nice they just say "cute or adorable". I genuinely think this might be the reason why I get zero approaches. I'm 153cm, petite frame and baby faced. I give off soft feminine energy. I have soft contrast beauty. I try to dress my age. I also try not to look too forced. I even changed the whole wardrobe and I still get the same result: No romantic or even casual approaches. I genuinely feel invisible cause it's very common in my environment to be pursed. My friends are getting engaged, married or asked out while I'm here waiting for someone to say "Hi, how are you/can I get your number?". I have no clue what could make men not consider me. Sometimes I put myself in environments where I usually interact with men and eventually they get to know my age but still no romantic progression. Have you ever encountered that? How did you change that without changing your core self?
Edit: I live in the Middle East for those who’re wondering

What helped you most when it comes to grounding yourself? I always monitor myself; my tone, my movements, my clothes, my posture, micro-behaviors etc… I’m analyzing myself 24/7 especially how I look to others. I’m also monitoring people. I live in my own head most of the time and I’m trying to be more present. Do you any of you experience that? What helped you overcome this?

How is the system there for Pm&r residents in Germany and is it in demand?
Is it easily accessible for foreigners?

I have been dealing with this issue for weeks. I created new accounts and deleted the app then reinstalled it again but still it’s not generating slides anymore. Has anyone experienced this too?

Facts about me:

1- I don’t really care about money as long as I do something I love

2- I want a lifestyle friendly specialty so def no on calls.

3- I don’t want surgeries

4- Pharmacology and maths are my enemy

5- I hate overwhelming specialties where you study something about everything but I can compromise if they are the only ones left lol

6- Would be nice if this specialty is in demand

7- I’m an emotional person. I love psych but I won’t be doing it in my native language so it’ll be challenging; it’s a no for me

8- I can write all day and listen all day. These are my skills lol

9- I’m not interested in a specific subject so I really don’t know what I want

Based on these, which specialty do you think would be the best fit for me? I’m thinking geriatrics, pm&r, preventive medicine, FM (overwhelming) and derma (latter is hardest to get-almost impossible- If it was available I wouldn’t have made this post lol). If you think other specialties suit me plz let me know. Tell me adv & disav of each.

Specialties that are impossible to get in (in the country I’m aiming for):

Derma

Oph

ENT

Urology

Maybe rads

How do you guys use the sandwich method for retinol? What do you do after cleansing? Do you wait 20 minutes then add the first layer of moisturizer on dry skin or do you moisturize on damp skin then wait 20 minutes then add ur retinol?