u/4littlesquishes

We have an appointment with a lawyer thursday to discuss this but I just want insight before then because im flustered.

Edit: please focus on the question and not the sexual orientation of my mother... theyve both told me they are not in a conjugal relationship.

My mom is dieing of cancer. For some reason shes been filing as common law with her bestie and they have been living together for 15+ years, as room mates. My mom owns the house, and pays the bills. Her friend will pay for groceries sometimes. Her friend is 18 years older than her. They are not in a conjugal relationship. Her bestie has now decided that everything should go to her when my mom dies, leaving me and my sister with nothing, though she claims she will leave what's left when she dies to us. Problem is she also has a son who doesnt work so I don't see it getting back to us ever if that happens. Besties name is not on the deed.

Even if my mom writes her out of the will, she could technically file a dependency claim... I've known this bestie for 28+ years the fact that shes done this blows my mind. The fact that she thinks she should be the one to Inherit everything is just mind blowing. Id rather it all go to charity at this point.

I truly believe my mom didnt understand what would happen by doing everything as common law partners, even when they are not. We also weren't expecting her friend to out live her.

This is such a nightmare.

Any in sights are welcome...

My mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor yesterday. She has yet to make a will or assign POAs.
We need to get this sorted asap.
Will a lawyer ask for a letter from her doctor stating that she's of sound mind to make these decisions and the tumor is not affecting her decision making?
The tumor is currently just affecting her speech. Will the notes from her CT based on tumor location be enough to show that her cognition is still intact?

There was a grandparent at school pick up warning other parents that if their kid wasnt feeling well it was likely a stomach bug as their grandchild was home sick after having thrown up several times throughout the day.

So of course now I am spiraling.

I get for most people talking about it and experiencing it is no big deal but whyyy was I within ear shot of this?! Normally I pick up my daughter and go right back to the car and my son meets us at the car, but today my daughter wanted to stay and wait...

Ugh fuxk this phobia.

I was lucky enough this week to get a full set up of a horizontal 40 gallon terrarium for free, from someone who lost their bearded dragon.

Initially we were going to get a crested gecko but we know these are not the right type of enclosure for them and considered building a frame around it with a door, to make it vertical (still an option).

2 questions

Ideally we would use it as is, would a gargoyle be ok in a 40gal horizontal?

Secondly I have a 10g bioactive terrarium and want to transfer that over to whatever set up we end up going with for our gecko, will it be ok if its native species of spring tails and isopods? Does it matter where they are from?

I got my blood drawn this morning and I am so scared of it coming back all normal. I have felt very off for over 2 years and I've been offered no resolutions or diagnosis.

I just feel like if it comes back fine then I have no good reason to be in pain and so fatigued. I dont want an autoimmune disease but it will at least give me a reason for the way I've been feeling.

I finally got a req for bloodwork to test for autoimmune diseases!

Now when is it that I should go do this test for the best chance of it being accurate?

I think im at the tail end of what id consider to be a flare. Still having joint pain, but the fatigue is mostly resolved and have reached insomnia..

I assume its still active enough that it would show.

What do you think?

I have an appointment this evening to request blood tests for auto immune disorders.

Any tips?