AIO for being upset at my husband’s constant teasing?
My (53f) husband (45m) says his “love language” is teasing. We’ve been married 20 years and I’ve been putting up with it, rarely pushing back.
Here’s the problem: he’s funny, so I usually laugh at first. Then, it starts to hurt a few minutes later. He hates confrontation, so the few times I’ve said something, he’ll say, “You were laughing a few minutes ago, what’s your problem?”
Last night he came home, unzipped his backpack and said, “I got you flowers.” Of course I didn’t believe him, but then I saw the cellophane wrap and some green leaves.
For about a half second, my heart melted. Then, he holds up a bundle of kale and starts laughing.
I said nothing and he just went about his evening. I told him later that I actually believed he got me flowers and was hurt.
After his usual antics (“But you can’t eat flowers and kale is so much healthier for you) he drove to Safeway and came home with tulips.
He acted like he had just bought me a diamond pendant. I said thank you, and since then, he’s been patting himself on the back and asking if I like my flowers.
This morning, he bragged to our son (18) about what a great husband he is for getting me flowers, so I told our son, in front of my husband, the real story.
Our son was visibly disgusted and said, “That was mean, dad.”
My husband stomped around, said I made him look bad in front of our son and left. So, AIO if I tell him I don’t want to watch fireworks with him tonight?
Actually, as I think on this, let me revise my question: AIO if I move out?