u/9by7seconds

Since 2018 my daily calorie intake sits between 1,000 and 1400 at most. I lost weight back from 2017 into 2018 on a severely low deficit , but it did the job over the time and I was happy about it. After doing the severely low deficit , I went back to eating a 1000 to 1400 calories a day. I maintained my weight until 2024 and 2025 when I had my miracle babies. I was placed on Depo the shot and then a Provera pill because of actively bleeding 24/7 for 6 to 8 months straight. While the shot was dropped the milligrams in the pill was upped. I've recently had all of my hormones and whatnot tested- my testosterone is not high, levels look all good , keep taking d3 and iron supplements..

Food-wise, I'm heading minimums of

80 g protein daily , 16 G of fiber , carbs are around 30 to 60% of whatever the daily protein is , and fats are monitored based on what food I'm cycling through that day. No frozen meals. No candy. No soda pop (2 sugar free red bulls biweekly or else I drag while walking).

My dietitian wont see me due to where I am as calories in daily. At times its 700 (i see the weight shift at 700) to 1000 to see results . But it's because of my numbers being under a thousand that they can't recommend anything to me for help. I'm not insulin resistant , I do not have thyroid issues, my blood sugar levels are within all numbers . They cant recommend shots. My primary care physician was aware of this and recommended me to our local nutritionist. I was with the local nutritionist for 7 months and did not lose a pound because she was only changing what I was eating and my calorie intake stayed at the general same . All 3 agree I am where I should be at hitting my minimum numbers for protein/fiber/etc.

I have ran out of my current resources. My primary care physician , nutritionist, and dietitian all don't feel like they can help me because of where my calorie intake stands and for the fact that I am at a plateau .

Any ideas?

5'1 (rounding up) and 186lbs.

My husband and I are greatly considering Arkansas as the state we will be moving to. Before starting to narrow it down as to specific where, we're trying to gauge his career opportunities since he will be the only one working . He is finishing up his Bachelors and cybersecurity and has 5 years of IT experience. I've tried over in the IT forums and its the general "everywhere sucks".🥲 so, im hoping to get an idea directly from those in Arkansas.

I've done therapy over the course of 9 years for various reasons. But this specific issue I am on year four with . I've had five different therapists over that time. The first one did not feel like they were capable of helping me due to their lack of experience. I went through CBT after that . I went through​ emdr. And then the last two therapists I was with just weren't really touching base on the issue and we're searching for everything but the problem I presented to them.

The issue is Essentially I wish one individual would just be gone from the face of this Earth and my life would be better. They did not directly do anything to me but their existence literally complicates my life and my joy. If I got into detail I probably would not have enough Karma points to post anywhere . Part of its anger that is not acted out on because I'm no contact with the individual. Part of it is this regret or resentment because I could be so much further and be doing so much better in life. I've already been to therapy with the middle individual that is involved with the scenario and we have worked through most of everything. We plan on continuing therapy after this little move in our life happens since we will need to find a different therapist when we are settled in our new state.

I'm not really sure What to ask for with my behavioral health specialist- now or after the move- As what I need to do next . I have the tools. I bought the cbt book the therapist used. Ive spent years talking. But that feeling doesnt go away. I understand it better ​, but because this individual is alive the feeling remains.

What are some honest recommendations? Maybe books?

My father in law was to have surgery to have part of the area of cancer cells removed on Tuesday. My job, 2 months ago, told me to put in fmla for this. Come Tuesday, they backed out halfway into surgery due to major scar tissue damage of one of the organs they planned to go through.

I called my boss and let him know of this. He said he'd cancel the fmla and to take the week off- he'd see me back Monday. I told him I'd need pto. I have 5 full weeks saved. My father in law wont be released til Monday, and will still need 2-3 weeks of bedrest. My husband's job refused his pto, and is refusing to allow him more than his 1 remote day a week. My boss is refusing my pto.

Im unsure how to handle this. Neither of us can magically get new jobs, and we have bills to pay. Im distraught as it is over the fact we were all hoping a handful of the area where the cancer cells were would be removed prior to his treatments. This is hard on our whole family.

What do we do? Im at a loss. My husband cannot emotionally take another hit, so im trying to help where I can.