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When I was a child, I was hurt in a bad way. It was serious, left me with lingering trauma and PTSD, and led to a generally isolated and awkward adolescence. Against the odds, with professional help and perseverance, I grew into a functioning and stable adult with a job, hobbies, friends, and a balanced life. I am 28 years old now.

Recently, my mother had an interview with some caseworkers because she is considering emergency foster care for displaced children, and I was home at the time. They were asking her the standard questions about herself and her family, and whether there was anything distressing about her or her home that might be found during a background check. She gave them her life story and then told them about my personal history, what happened to me as a child. I was in the background, physically miming to her not to discuss my business, but she ignored me. In fact, she said, "I'm sorry, please trust me," before telling these strangers my history. She knew she upset me because she also said to the caseworkers, almost jokingly (my emotions were high, so I could be wrong about the tone), "She's angry at me now".

After the interview, they left, and I've been distant and antisocial with her because I feel that sharing my personal experience was inappropriate and inconsiderate. She would argue that her intention wasn't to hurt or embarrass me, or to air out my personal business, but that these people could find police and court records while checking her out, and she needed to be upfront about what they might find so it wouldn't come across as her hiding relevant information. I still insist that what happened to ME as a child while living under someone else's roof and in someone else's care had nothing to do with HER and her parenting history.

AITA basically for being angry and feeling betrayed after she told strangers my personal business?

When I was a child, something bad happened. It was serious, left me with lingering trauma and PTSD, and led to a generally isolated and awkward adolescence. Against the odds, with professional help and perseverance, I grew into a functioning and stable adult with a job, hobbies, friends, and a balanced life. I am 28 years old now.

Recently, my mother had an interview with some caseworkers because she is considering emergency foster care for displaced children, and I was home at the time. They were asking her the standard questions about herself and her family, and whether there was anything distressing about her or her home that might be found during a background check. She gave them her life story and then told them about my personal history as a child. I was in the background, physically miming to her not to discuss my business, but she ignored me. In fact, she said, "I'm sorry, please trust me," before telling these strangers my history. She knew she upset me because she also said, almost jokingly (my emotions were high, so I could be wrong about the tone), "she's angry at me now".

After the interview, they left, and I told her that sharing my personal experience was inappropriate and inconsiderate. She argued that her intention wasn't to hurt or embarrass me, or to air out my personal business, but that these people could find court records while checking her out, and she needed to be upfront about what they might find so it wouldn't come across as her hiding relevant information. I still insist that what happened to ME as a child while living under someone else's roof in someone else's care had nothing to do with HER and her parenting history.

AITA for telling mum she was wrong to share my personal history