u/ALIEN_SKIN

This took place when I was still butch lesbian repping.

I was on dating apps at the time and matched with this very hyperfeminine girl, like dressed in all pink, gyaru-adjacent fashion, tits out in all pictures. Im very into hyperfeminity and alernative fashion, so Im very into it. Their name on the apps is something like "Dollie", theyre listed as a bisexual woman, with she/they pronouns. We match, chat for a few days, agree to meet up.

Once we meet up, we exchange instagram and on their Instagram I note that their pronouns are listed as "he/him". I ask about it, he reveals that hes actually a trans man, but presents as a woman on the apps to attract straight man. He says he forgot that it still says those pronouns on insta, but that those are correct. Im like ah okay lol no judgement innit but also Im a lesbian so this is not gonna work out, but we can be friends right.

So we go on a friend date, and during that date he was legit so obnoxious and patrionizing. I was lowkey a he/him butch kinda thing back then, and he kept making comments about how he "also used to dress masculinely, before he grew out of it". And he presented being feminine as like a natural evolution, that enlightened ftms reach at some point, while being masculine is a "babytrans" thing. He also made fun of MY name and called it a stereotypical ftm name, meanwhile hes in a skirt and calling himself dollie, even back then I thought he was in no position to talk lmaoo.

He also talked excessively about the straight men he sleeps with, and (the most annoying thing to me) insisted that I was soooo into him and so desperate to get in his pants, while hes not into me. I honestly lost all attraction to him the moment I realized hes a man, and HE tried to kiss ME in a club, after it had been established that Im only attracted to women.

Anyways we lost contact eventually, and then a few months later I saw him on the apps again and in one of the prompts he said that hes only attracted to "feminity💖💖💖🩷🩷🩷💗💓" which I found funny considering everything lol.

Hello, Ill be back in the gym soon, and like many men Im inclined to focus on my upper body/masculinizing my shape, and deep down wish to skip leg day (which is idiotic and I wont do).

Im doing a PPL workout plan, and the way I made peace with working out legs, is while for my push and pull exercises I do high intensity low reps (close to failure for 3x5-8), for my leg day I do a more "chill" (obviously still challenging) weight with a higher rep count (3x10-12).

Does my logic follow that this way I could work on my strength in my legs an appropriate amount, while mostly focusing my muscle gain on my upper body? Or does it not work like that.

Happy for any feedback👍

Edit: just for extra information, I'm Pre-T, working at a slight calorie excess, and have had gym phases over the last few years, intervened with home workout phases, so Im not well built but not a beginner either

Hallo, ich habe in August tatsächlich einen Psychiater Termin und möchte dann auch anfragen ob ein Indikationsschreiben für Testosteron möglich wäre.

Ich bin noch nicht out zu meinen Eltern und werde das vorerst auch vermeiden wollen (mir ist bewusst, dass das auf Testo schwierig ist, aber whatever), bin aber noch auf der Familienversicherung meiner Eltern (AOK Bayern).

Ich wollte fragen, ob es da irgendeine Chance gibt, dass meine Eltern erfahren könnten, dass ich Testo verschrieben kriege? Ich weiß für Testo braucht man keinen Antrag stellen, nur Indikation/Diagnose und dann Endo. Gibt es da irgendeinen Punkt wo die informiert werden würden? Ich bin Erwachsen, falls das nicht klar ist.

Außerdem, wenn mein legaler Name noch nicht geändert ist, dann würde ja jegliche Post, die mein Psychiater oder Endo schreiben sowieso an meinen legalen Namen adressiert werden, oder? Meine Eltern würden keine Post die an mich adressiert ist öffnen, also das Problem ist eher wenn etwas an sie adressiert wird oder wenn die es auf meinen gewählten Namen adressieren werden.

Ich weiß das klingt sehr paranoid lol, aber ich hoffe mir kann da jemand helfen