u/Aaochaipiyen

I'm M44, been married to my wife for almost 15-16 years now. We had a love marriage. Have 2 kids now. From outside we are a happy stable family. But the truth is that me and my wife seem to have completely lost any romantic feelings towards each other. We are here for the kids.

Dont get me wrong, we are still nice to each other, care about each other like one would for a family member but there is no romance or intimacy for last 4-5 years now. I dont think its because of any specific reason.. just seemend to have happened slowly.. organically ..may be just like crept on us. Its also not like we are "friends" .. most of the time when we are on our own we will just watch some netflix and go to bed. We only mostly talk about our kids/finances/other family members .. everything and everyone except us. We have friends over, throw parties.. all normal stuff and probably look like a good functioning couple.

Neither of us wants to end this tbh..we dont want to put our kids through it ..as harsh or wrong that might sound. But we are young(ish) and i also wonder how will we spend the rest of our lives like this? Has anyone managed to come out of such a situation and managed to bring back some joy and happiness in their relationship?

I guess I just wanted to vent.

Today Lucknow restored a little bit of my faith in people.

I accidentally left my phone in an Uber. The next passenger had unknowingly picked it up from the back seat along with their own phones/belongings. When I realized, I called my number in complete panic. They answered immediately, explained that they genuinely hadn’t noticed, shared their location, and returned my phone without any drama.

In a world where we mostly hear negative stories, this felt really wholesome.
Lucknow ki tehzeeb is still alive ❤️

Guys, this is going to be a small rant but rant i must.

i was born and brought up in Lucknow. Lived here a long time and a very proud Lucknowite.

Obviously Lucknow was much different then and things have changed a lot but one thing that does not change is the entitelement of our VIPs. I'm not even talking about the netas, we dont have any expectations from them but what about the civil servants, the neeli batti and "govt of india" bade sahabs? They are supposed to be educated, well learned, smart people yet they and their chamchas behave with some next level entitelement that does not reflect any signs of being educated.

Last evening, i was waiting for an uber outside Pallasio and a small family was waiting next to me. When their cab arrived the kids walked towards the car and some VIP car came driving right next to the cab and almost putting the kids in danger. No one cared. Offcourse he couldn't wait behind the cab because how could he? Then some police constable started loading their shopping into the car completely blocking the cabs door from one side. Again, no fucks given. Sahab has to board right infront of the door and not a moment to lose.

Could they not tell their drivers/staff to behave with some sense? Do they think it shows some sort of power? To me it shows a complete lack of education and civic sense.

I hope to come one day and find this VIP culture vanished from our city because frankly, its crass.

Rant over