Actionable Hinge etiquettes
31M, Southeast Asian - MA
Sorry if this is too loaded/too many words -
recently subscribed to Hinge X (I spend stupid amount of money on far needless things), cause why not.
I have been on the app for years but mostly on-and-off.
I started swiping more seriously this Jan, and have had maybe 1-2 matches every 7-10 days, and been on about 9 dates. 3 2nd dates and 3 unique 1st dates since Jan.
None of them ended anywhere, I did not try to kiss or escalate cause I certainly am under confident and I did not grow up in America so idk how the dating thing works here.
I dared to ask them what went wrong and I was told it was all ‘too platonic’. Bottomline I know it was my fault.
I dont think I can post my hinge profile yet, but I wanted to understand a few things:
\- I always get more hinge matches when I am traveling than my home city/state
\- people say this is a numbers game, so sending how many likes is healthy, Hinge X doesnt limit my #
\- I obviously am never in the standouts, but hoping someone can explain how to get there
\- how often should I change my photos? Is selecting ‘choose the best photo’ a good option or should I pick what I feel is the best? Cause it always picks the same photo as best one.
\- Any other advice on how to navigate this?
Last actual relationship was years ago!