Considering bankruptcy post divorce, unsure and scared.
I have $40k credit card debt. $46k mortgage (I’m on deed and mortgage, X only on mortgage). Divorce was final last summer after years of it pending. It was rushed, the attorneys and judge went with what we put in the agreement, no one advised us. I ended up with a ton of marital debt that isn’t mostly my fault, he’d repeatedly got fired or changed jobs and so credit was used for food, bills and unnecessary stuff like his cigarettes which often were $1000mo despite me begging. Anyway, my partner has been covering my payments where I’m temporarily unemployed due to childcare. It’s not ideal, I owe credit cards and I owe my partner. At least no interest there. I’m thinking it may be better to file bankruptcy, than to have a multi-year hole constantly reminding me of marital failure as well as my partner having to bail me out. I fully intend to repay the credit cards and my partner. I just wonder if I’m going about this stupidly because I’m stubborn/prideful about bankruptcy and scared of it. I have 100% payment history, but my score stays in the 600’s and has for like 17yrs. It feels like a scam. I’m using around 50% of my overall limit. Another reason I’m worried to do this. I’d love to clean start, but the stigma and potential negative effects is holding me back. I got the house in the divorce, but it needs a lot of work. We have kids and I have a small business. I got to keep two of our four vehicles, early to late 2000’s which also need repairs. I have around 10k in savings, checking has just enough for household bills where partner pays that and I pay what I can when I get bookings. I’ll be back to work full time in 1-2yrs. Should I wait this out and go back to paying it off or file and give up? My partner’s credit is clean and high, but we’re not married so that’s a risk too. What if I need credit? Jeez that sounds so stupid. I got myself in a dependency trap. I want to get back to work full time asap and split everything like we did originally. We had a baby together and neither want to use daycare, so please don’t come at me on the partner part, we’ve chosen it this way. I also don’t want them to come after his assets, where he lives with me, if that’s even a thing. Sorry for the ramble. Hoping for some kind of clarity about the bankruptcy boogie man.