She admitted to the police that she lied
We had just got back from a great holiday.
I was at home while she was out. There's a knock on my door and there's six police on my doorstep. I'm absolutely flabbergasted that I'm being arrested. I won't give details, because I'm not allowed to, needless to say, I don't find out what I'm being arrested for until 40 minutes later after being handcuffed and thrown in the back of a police car with no windows. No idea where I'm going or why.
Two days later, after the weekend, I'm in court. I learn that there is essentially nothing I can do. I cannot communicate with her. Her report mentioned her self-harming, her BPD and mental health. Her fears of future self harming. And blaming me for it.
The thing that really got me was how normal everything was. Completely normal day. But from events surrounding and preceding that day, it's clear that she planned this for at least 3-days beforehand.
Anyway, two days after court, I've got my life packed into 5 cardboard boxes in a country motel. She messages me saying how sorry she is. How she's at the police station doing everything she can to recant her report and remove the restraining order against me. I hear that it was her support workers and church friend who encouraged her, and told her exactly what to say to the police. She begs me not to move across country, but I have to. I literally have to.
Anyone have something like this happen to them, or even done this to someone?
I'm not a particularly good husband, but I have never raised a finger to her. I love her, and I can already forgive her. I want her to move with me. Because after being with me, she's off the SSRI's. Dropped a bunch of her support workers, and grown a lot. She just has toxic, thoughtless, drama-seeking people around her. I want her back, but I need to have these court orders dropped, and I need something appointing me as her mental health carer or something like that.
I know she isn't her sickness. She has a different face to her BPD, and I can see when it is and isn't her. I'm hurt deeply, but most of me has already forgiven her.