I'm really young, but after my first ever serious relationship turned out to be abusive I'm kind of losing hope :(
So I would really appreciate your story of how you have found your husband/long term partner!
I feel like relationships are difficult even without the childfree part, as finding a good man is not an easy task. But to find a good man who also doesn't want kids feels impossible rn.
First off I just want to say that I don't hate men. I'm sure there are good ones out there, I just haven't met that many of them.
So, I'm a young woman who likes video-games, especially multiplayer shooters, so often most people I play with are men. Recently with two of them conversation went to the topic of kids, I said I am not interested in having babies and I reallyyyyy don't like the idea of pregnancy.
And what do they tell me? One of them starts to say the usual stuff: how bored I'll become with time and how lonely I will be when I'm older and that it's so fun to have a child! (as he said - because you can play lego or ride a bike with your kid...). And on top of that he tells me that pregnant women are cute! I was literally about to explode.
Mind you, that dude is single in his 30es and only plans to have kids *someday*. When I asked why tf is he single then he told me that his fwb left him after he was 'honest' with her, so he doesn't rush into relationship now.
Other dude told me he doesn't want kids now because of his mental health issues, but also.. He wanted kids with his ex before >:D When I asked him about his recent date he was hesitant to say anything positive about her and ended up telling me that he just doesn't want to be alone. I was absolutely shocked, because it turns out he, as a 32 year old man, is using a 19 year old girl just not to be alone.
It is just shocking that I need to teach older men basic human decency. That I need to say out loud that using women for sex or your loneliness is shitty. That it's not okay to date someone so much younger than yourself.
Honestly, looking at all of those guys and my previous relationship I feel very depressed thinking about my future dating life..