u/AcanthisittaRoyal270

I’ve seen comments under posts from women who are career-driven, independent, emotionally mature, feminine and attractive, where men say they’re “put off” by strong or career-focused women, as if it’s some brutal truth women need to accept.

But isn’t that just telling on themselves?

Sorry my life made me independent. Sorry I learned how to survive, pay bills, make decisions, have standards and act like an adult. That is not being “too masculine” or “too strong.” That is basic growing up.

To clarify, I’m not saying women should seek approval from men like this. I’m more interested in why some men seem uncomfortable with highly independent women, and whether those attitudes affect how women are treated socially beyond dating.

So what is the actual issue? That she has her shit together? Or that she is harder to manipulate?

Before Covid, I could look around in real life or online dating and find plenty of men physically attractive. Not necessarily model-looking, just handsome, edgy, masculine, appealing, with some kind of spark.

Now I scroll through dating apps and it’s like… what the hell happened?

A lot of men just don’t look physically attractive to me anymore, and there’s no real masculine energy either with that “mummy and daddy pampered me too much” vibe. So many profiles feel low effort, flat, badly photographed, awkward, or like there’s no presence behind the eyes.

And yes, physical attraction is important to me. I don’t think that’s shallow. I can’t date someone I don’t want to touch, kiss, or look at. Personality matters, obviously, but attraction has to be there too. It’s weird because women online dating are incredibly beautiful and independent etc.

It’s not even about wanting perfection. I can find unconventional men attractive if they have confidence, warmth, humour, intelligence, style, strength, or some kind of life force. But so many profiles now feel like absolutely nothing is happening.

Does anyone else feel like attraction has become much rarer post-Covid?

Before Covid, I could look around in real life or online dating and find plenty of men physically attractive. Not necessarily model-looking, just handsome, edgy, masculine, appealing, with some kind of spark.

Now I scroll through dating apps and it’s like… what the hell happened?

A lot of men just don’t look physically attractive to me anymore, and there’s no real masculine energy either with that “mummy and daddy pampered me too much” vibe. So many profiles feel low effort, flat, badly photographed, awkward, or like there’s no presence behind the eyes.

And yes, physical attraction is important to me. I don’t think that’s shallow. I can’t date someone I don’t want to touch, kiss, or look at. Personality matters, obviously, but attraction has to be there too. It’s weird because women online dating are incredibly beautiful and independent etc.

It’s not even about wanting perfection. I can find unconventional men attractive if they have confidence, warmth, humour, intelligence, style, strength, or some kind of life force. But so many profiles now feel like absolutely nothing is happening.

Does anyone else feel like attraction has become much rarer post-Covid?