Does grooming necessarily have to be sexual, or does it still count as long as it's inherently psychologically invasive in nature?
I'm asking because I am a 16-year-old girl in 11th Grade being constantly harassed by this 20-year-old female classmate of mine (we're not from the US, hence why the education system works differently when it comes to dealing with adult learners where they just enroll them with minors instead of actually considering the high risks of predatory behavior and harassment) who claims to just "want to be friends" with me, which would be fine if it weren't for the fact that she'd try to INVADE MY PERSONAL SPACE and be VERY PHYSICALLY TOUCHY with me even after I'VE REPEATED NUMEROUS TIMES that I DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE BEING PHYSICALLY TOUCHED BY HER, especially since I JUST MET HER 2 WEEKS AGO.
She'd then try and justify her actions by saying shit like "well maybe you're just not used to it because you're a loner; your life is just so sad and boring because you have no friends", trying to make me feel ashamed for simply wanting to be by myself when I genuinely do love being by myself?????? Then she'd continue being all touchy, even when I repeatedly try and move away from her, which would also make her suddenly act passive aggressive (such as ignoring whenever I approached her to complete a school activity that we were partnered up in back when she wasn't harassing me yet) towards me just to make me feel guilty for it.
However, I don't think (at least for now) that her intentions are sexual, but instead I believe that she's at least aiming to establish an extremely emotionally intimate "friendship" with me so that she can leech off from the efforts and hard work I have for my academics, because I've noticed ever since we've met that she's always trying to ask me the most basic types of questions in class (such as "how to write a sentence", "what to do" even though the teacher literally just said the instructions loud and clear, and "what is the answer to this") but then proceeds to not actually learn or find a way on how to actually answer those questions herself. I get that she may highly be a functional illiterate, but I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY A 16-YEAR-OLD SUCH AS MYSELF HAS TO BE THE ONE TO GIVE HER REMEDIAL CLASSES????????
If you're wondering why she's unable to actually be academically competent all on her own: she told me that it was because she dropped out of 11th grade for personal reasons back in 2023, and for the past three years, all she ever spent her time on was on pure unadulterated leisure like watching Kdramas every day, hence why she "has become too stupid" and that apparently "that's just the way she is now". When I suggested to ask her parents to perhaps seek out tutors or remedial classes (because I've seen from her social media posts how well-off her family actually was despite her claiming that they were "just average"), she claims that they're too broke for it, and hence why she's seeking answers from me. Like, HOW IS THAT MY PROBLEM????????? Like sure, I DON'T MIND HELPING OTHERS OUT, in fact I am a very docile individual which is also why I got myself in this situation in the first place because this 20-year-old woman must've thought I would be an easy target, but like, every time she literally nags me these basic questions, she ends up interfering with my focus on school as well. WHY SHOULD HER PROBLEM BE MY PROBLEM WHEN WE LITERALLY AREN'T EVEN ANYTHING FOR ME TO SUDDENLY SACRIFICE MY OWN EDUCATION FOR THIS RANDOM STRANGER AND IT WAS SHE WHO APPROACHED ME FIRST?????????
So does this genuinely still count as grooming, even when this 20-year-old classmate of mine's most likely intentions are to leech off of me and interfere with my focus on my studies just to pass 11th Grade without actually working for it herself, because she's trying to force an extremely emotionally intimate bond between she and I, a 16-year-old girl?