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I (29 female) have a seizure disorder. I’ve been with my now BF for 2 years. I recently just had my first seizure ever in front of him and I don’t know how to handle it.
My brain is still in a fog and he can’t tell me much about what happened other then I didn’t know who he was when I “woke up”
I’m still learning how to navigate my brain after a seizure and really I’m just looking for advice on how to get out of the “fog”.
My ex husband said “it takes you a long time to get out of the “fog””, mind you my ex husband was very abusive and a lot of my seizures stemmed from him. This is the first seizure I’ve had that he had nothing to do with. I have to go back to work on Monday & can’t afford for this “fog” to last long. So really I’m just looking for advice on how to go back to “normal”

I work as a lunch lady.
So explain to me how elementary and middle school kids can’t get anything “seconds” wise unless it’s off the salad bar (fruits and vegetables actually don’t fill anyone up), but can’t get seconds of the main entree?
High schoolers can buy seconds of the main entree.
Parents are required by law to feed their children as much as that child needs, no calories followed. If your kid is hungry you are REQUIRED to feed them….
Yet schools say it’s a calorie count.
All kids are growing. Not just high schoolers. & believe it or not elementary and middle school kids have HIGH METABOLISMS.
If us as parents followed the “calorie count” we were supposed to for our children’s age….. our children wouldn’t be healthy.
But yet kids spend more time at school than they do at home…….. starving at school but blame the parents because the government follows this “calorie count” that isn’t realistic and frankly it differs by child.

I ruined my sister in laws gender reveal, now let me back up and explain when this all started.

It was February of 2015, my husband (at the time, 19) and I (18) found out we were pregnant, as most newly weds it wasn’t exactly part of the plan but we were excited either way. Well a couple weeks go by, we hadn’t told a lot of people just his parents, my parents and a couple friends. We did not tell any siblings of ours. We were a few days away from finally getting the first ultra sound to see the heart beat when I unfortunately started bleeding.

We went to the hospital and well this is the shitty part, they did the ultra sound… doctor came in and said “You were pregnant but you are not anymore” and walked out the room.

We told the people who needed to know that we lost the baby and we were in our grieving stage when a group text came through to husbands side of the family.

one week after losing our baby we find out that sister in law is pregnant. The amount of jealousy and frustration I had was insane. My husband did explain to his brother why I wasn’t extremely happy and he seemed to be very hurt knowing that we lost our baby.

Now this is where it really goes down, we got the invite to the gender reveal. We are REQUIRED to be there. So I decided to not be sober at this event, well the way they did this gender was by a scratch off ticket. everyone got a ticket and then you find out the gender.

My husband and I saw the stack of scratch tickets and me not being fully aware and honestly completely jealous at the fact they were having, what I thought at the time was MY baby (I just didn’t find it fair that I lost mine and they were having one), my husband said “Just take the top one and we will go “on a walk” to the river down the street. We will know before everyone else”

So that’s what I did. We got to the river scratched it and it said “It’s a girl” my heart sunk. I cried, I tore the ticket up and I watched the pieces float down the river. Him and I swore we would act surprised when the time finally came for the reveal and swore it would stay between us.

This is where I got pissed off, we got back to the party. they pass out the scratch tickets and we all do our thing. No one is saying the gender and on the card we had it was blank.

Come to find out……

THE TOP CARD WAS THE ONLY SCRATCH TICKET WITH THE GENDER!!!!!

It was all a game. Sister in law had planned for her grandfather to scratch off the gender and announce it to everyone!

Did I feel bad? No. Do I now? Yes.

She wasn’t a good sister in law. Plus again I wasn’t in the right mental state to even want to be involved with anyone having a baby.

This is why I feel worse, a few days later I found out I was pregnant. Sister in laws daughter and my daughter are 4 months apart.

I am pretty sure IATAH