I had him arrested
I’m (28F) almost exactly three months post partum. He (27M) choked me out when I was four months pregnant. I stayed. I said something evil, told myself if I learned how to watch my mouth it wouldn’t happen again. It didn’t, for a long time. Two weeks post partum, I saw his phone screen light up with a message on tiktok from a girl. Naturally, I check his snapchat messages while I’m at it. Valentine’s day, two days before my scheduled induction. He was in a foul mood that day and I didn’t know why. It was because he tried to go have sex with someone else and got rejected. Begged, even. “We can meet halfway!” I’ll never forget it. He brings me flowers on Mother’s Day. Foolishly, we have sex. He cums inside me even though I told him not to. He screams my name because the baby woke up, I go to the bedroom. He’s picking her up by the pajamas, my 3 month old baby who cannot sit up yet… I catch an attitude and tell him not to do that. He goes to the bathroom and starts “f*cking b*tch… stupid f*cking b*tch” just loud enough for me to hear. I open the door and tell him to say it to my face and not be a child, and to get out of my house, toss his clothes at him. He gets out of the shower, arms extended forward like he’s going to choke me again. I reverse out of the bathroom, he punches a fucking hole through the door. The door of the bathroom at my new apartment that I got for me and my daughter to get away from him the first time. She was less than ten feet away on my bed as this unfolded. I did have him arrested and he didn’t hurt either of us. Physically, anyways. I know I’m an idiot for thinking it wouldn’t happen again. It doesn’t make it hurt any less though. I’m letting myself be abused over a fucking glimmer at a chance of a “happy family” when I know deep down that I will never get that with him. I knew when I had him arrested that would be the nail in the coffin, the cops gave me a protective order until November without me even asking (I got a temporary one after the first incident so I’m assuming the judge took that into consideration?) I’m just so disappointed in myself. I never thought I would be dealing with bullshit baby daddy drama and here I am. Thou shall not judge, I guess.
TLDR: The guy I’ve known for 5 years didn’t start being abusive until he got me pregnant, I finally got him arrested and I don’t think we will ever talk again.