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Any tips would be extremely welcome.

My husband is European, we have kids and live in EU. We'd like to buy a house. Seems like now would be a good time to go to CA, and move back to EU when we are older and need healthcare, with USA savings.

How does one...do this? Get him visa first, then jobs, then house? How much pain are visas to deal with, is it predictable or they just throw you out randomly with no warning?

I have no idea how to be an adult in USA and it looks like a big learning curve. Any tips from people who did it? Or you figure it out pretty quick?

Technically...I would plan to not pay more than 30% of our combined after-tax salary to housing. This is what we do now but we don't pay healthcare...? I see on job offerings that most pay for health insurance but is that usually good enough? Do you have to play games with coverage and copays?

If you did this yourself, did you have any surprises with costs that you didn't expect when you went to USA?

Could someone point me to some more detailed info about insomnia in pregnancy as a result of hormone changes? Ideally during end of 1st/beginning of 2nd trimester.

I'm ending 1st trimester and this week have suddenly had intense insomnia. The top Google results list mostly physical reasons for not sleeping - pain, nausea, etc. but I'm not uncomfortable, I just have zero sleep pressure.

I'm super curious what could have brought this on so quickly and dramatically. Ofc will ask doc about it next week, right now I'm just curious, not suffering horribly.