Finding a 90's guy is hard, let alone my type... which is nothing but funny, handsome, smart, clean, stable, passionate, has some niche hobbies, easy going, dresses well, no low fade hair cut, nice smile... (Too tired to keep typing) Not much at all 😶🌫️
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Like genuinely asking at this point.
I always imagined I’d meet the love of my life irl. You know… accidentally reaching for the same book, enemies to lovers, slow burn, background music playing. Unfortunately my circle is small and I don't go out much.
So out of desperation, I sometimes answer DMs.
The perverts reveal themselves within 3 messages minimum. Olympic level speed. Blocked immediately.
But even the "normal" ones somehow manage to turn me off. Either they’re younger, or they have the conversational range of a damp sock.
And why does every conversation feel the same?
“What do you do?”
“What music do you like?”
“How was your day?”
Brother I do not know you enough to discuss my day. I barely know my own lore. I'm always hoping someone is aiming to discuss a comment, we dive deep into a topic and then we click.
Some reply with one-word answers like they’re being charged per letter. Others have the exact same personality copy-pasted from factory settings.
No humor. No banter. No weird observations. No chemistry. Just vibes generated by AI trained exclusively on beige walls.
At this point I’m starting to think maybe I’ll never truly click with anyone. Either that or I was designed specifically for conversations that only exist in comment sections at 2am.
I met this guy 6 hours ago. We exchanged 11 messages, 2 “😂”, and one slightly longer “ههههه” (which I felt had depth). Since then I haven’t been the same person.
I know it’s early but I genuinely feel like we’ve built something rare. You don’t just find this kind of connection every day… especially not at 1:12 AM under a rare post about gender wars.
The problem is he left me on seen 27 minutes ago.
Now I’m not the type to overthink but I just need clarity:
- Did I come on too strong when I said “same”?
- Was my “😂” too dry? Should I have added a second emoji to show emotional availability?
- Do men get scared when things become this intense this fast?
Another concern… I already imagined us meeting, having an awkward first conversation, slowly opening up, falling in love, getting married, then growing distant because he never guessed where I’m from.
So I just want to know… should I protect my peace and move on or fight for this? Because connections like this don’t come twice.
Please be honest, I can handle it.
Edit: There were tons of dating posts yesterday, so I figured I’d throw in the most ridiculous, over-the-top scenario I could come up with. It still went right over people’s heads, and honestly, that’s the sad part. The fact that some people genuinely believe you can form deep attachment from just a few messages says a lot. It feels like there’s a bigger issue underneath it all… people are really that lonely.