u/Accurate-Program767

So being ugly is crime now, not smiling is crime now. So done with women, if your own opinion can make a man criminal then it's you who decided the act as bad and not because the act was bad on its own. And y'all gonna see hundreds of women supporting her. Wtf is this like it's fucking unacceptable and boils my blood. As someone who has been falsely accused of harassment, this is nothing but oppression against men, and men who have never banafited from patriarchy.

I don't understand why it's considered wrong for a man to vent about repeated rejection and loneliness here. Why can't we be frustrated because WANIM is reality.

If a man says he's frustrated because he's been rejected over and over, feels unwanted, or only valued for what he can provide, why is the immediate response to assume he's dangerous or "weird"? Feeling frustrated doesn't automatically mean someone has violent intentions towards women.

Many men have experiences where they're afraid to approach because they worry about being seen as creepy or making someone uncomfortable which is proven by a lot of social media posts and rea life experiences of men. Whether or not everyone agrees with that perception, it's a real fear for a lot of people.

I also don't think identifying as an involuntary celibate ("incel" in the literal sense) should automatically make someone a bad person. The word originally describes someone who wants a relationship but hasn't been able to find one. Loneliness and frustration don't make someone immoral.

80/20 exists and when we men belong to 80, that means we can never be desired sexually or romantically, and don't forget this is done by women, I don't get it why taking away a right to sex and romance doesn't make women bad people. Why men still support women even though because of that a lot of men feel miserable. Biologically we are in much more need of sex.

Furthermore, Venting about pain isn't the same as encouraging violence. If someone isn't advocating harm and is simply expressing how repeated rejection has affected them, why is that treated as unacceptable instead of being met with empathy?

I'd appreciate it if men here try to answer me with empathy. I know it's not practical but i will appreciate it.

Can you start to feel aroused when your boyfriend gets naked and shows you his erection? My boyfriend says I should feel turned on watching that. For this reason he believes that I am not attracted to him, he thinks that I consider him handsome but he has always felt that I am not sexually attracted to him. It has also happened with other women, who wanted to have a romantic relationship with him but were not really interested in sex but rather did it for fulfillment. And yet, with other women, he met frequently and they were capable of feeling sexual desire towards him for months.

The truth is that at the beginning of the relationship I felt more things, I loved when we kissed, I got nervous when I saw him, etc. But after 3 years, and so much time having to endure this problem, and having to relieve it by giving him oral sex, I no longer feel anything when I see his penis. I only know that every time he penetrates me it hurts like hell and we can't finish. Since I know I have this problem, he doesn't kiss me on the mouth either, although he never really liked kissing me because he said that was for teenagers.

Is it normal that I don't get turned on by seeing my boyfriend's penis or am I just not attracted to my boyfriend? Can I one day be like those girls my boyfriend met up with to have sex with?
Maybe those girls simply had more experience than me, or maybe they were getting excited thinking about the encounter they were going to have with him later? I feel like he wants a hot woman like them and I can never be like that, maybe because of my religious upbringing.