Turning matches into dates
I’m a 22-year-old male. I’ve gotten about 15 matches in the last month and around 30 matches total since joining Hinge about three months ago. Because of that, I don’t think my profile is the problem. The problem is that almost none of those matches turn into dates.
Here are just a few examples. I have plenty more, but they almost always end the same way—they stop responding as soon as I try to move things toward a date.
**1. Tennis**
Her: “Hi.”
Me: “Hi, so when’s my first tennis lesson?” (She had tennis in her profile.)
→ No response.
**2. “Knows what he wants”**
Her prompt: “I go crazy for a man who knows what he wants.”
My comment: “Good, because I want to take you on a date this week.”
She matched.
Me: “Hey.”
Her: “Hey.”
Me: “I stand by my last statement. When are you free?”
→ No response.
**3. First date**
Her: “Hey, how are you?”
Me: “Great, just picturing our first date.”
→ No response.
**4. Number exchange**
I asked her out, and she said she was busy because her family was in town but free the following week.
Me: “Okay, text me so we can set something up.”
She texted me.
When I actually tried to schedule the date the next week…
→ No response.
**5. Ice skating**
Her prompt was about going ice skating instead of drinks.
Me: “I’m down for ice skating, but it has to be a second date.”
Her: “Haha, don’t want to fall for me too fast, I get it. So how good at chess are you? Need to figure out how badly I’ll lose.”
Me: “Guess we’ll have to play on the first date so you can find out. Also, are you against drinks for a first date?”
→ No response.
This seems to happen over and over. Sometimes they stop replying as soon as I suggest meeting, and sometimes they even unmatch me.
What am I doing wrong? Am I asking for the date too quickly? Am I coming across as too forward or too assumptive? Or is this just normal on Hinge? I’d really appreciate honest feedback because I feel like I should be converting more of these matches into actual dates.