u/Accurate_Term_2161

I told my girlfriend I make way less money than I actually do. Not because I wanted to manipulate her or fake being humble or some weird shit like that. I make way more than what I told her.

The reason is because literally everyone around me kept warning me about it. Family, friends, older people, all saying the same thing:

“Don’t ever tell a girl or her family how much you really make.”

“People get greedy.”

“They’ll start seeing you as an opportunity.”

“Her parents will pressure you.”

Etc.

And honestly, it got into my head.

The thing is, she already knows I’m doing well. My lifestyle kinda shows it. I’m not pretending to be broke. I just never gave the real numbers. But now I feel weird about it because I genuinely hate hiding things from people I care about. I like being straightforward.

At the same time, I don’t know if people are right and I’m just naïve. Maybe money really does change how people see you. Maybe once families hear certain numbers, the whole relationship becomes less about you and more about what you provide.

That’s the part that messes with me. I don’t want to become paranoid and see greed everywhere, but I also don’t want to be stupid.

For people who make good money or went through something similar:

Is hiding your real income actually smart, or is it a bad way to start a serious relationship?

idk if anyone else gets this but since i was a kid my brain has been stuck running worst case scenarios all day. mom doesnt pick up the phone? something bad happened. someone replies late to a msg? something is wrong. my business is doing well rn and im still up at 3am convinced its all gonna collapse tomorrow for no actual reason. and even when i have a productive day, like genuinely worked 7am to 6pm, the second i sit down at home i look out the window, see some guy walking somewhere and feel guilty like im falling behind in a race nobody told me about. my brain refuses to register that i did enough. ever. not even once. and loud noises is the worst, whenever im in a loud place i get really uncomfortable and just want to leave asap, ppl talking too loud outside and my head goes straight to someone fighting or something bad happening, a door slams and my heart starts pounding bc somewhere in my brain loud = bad. been like this forever and its messing with me physically now not just in my head. anyone else or is it just me