u/Acrobatic_Command560

Well well well

Well well well

me and my employed ass made it folks

and thanks for making the community engaging, loving and welcoming for me to come in have fun and make frens

life since June has been tolerable (lots of bad shit happened in bw) cuz of y'all so thanks for doing that for me

u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 3 hours ago

Why does a glimmer of hope hurt so much

I was a bit surprised and disappointed on Apr 29 of 2019.

it was the day my tenth standard's result was announced, I got a 395 (79%), My father had laid a condition saying that if I get less than 80% he's gonna make me go to a polytechnic and not let me continue my schooling but I've struggled with maths so I was worried I might not make it but I did make it and got a 58 compared to all the 85+ in the other subjects.

I was actually expecting him to give me some leeway and let me continue my 11th and 12th but I was on a train the same day and went to Sivakasi to apply for a diploma in printing technology.

it wasn't pleasant, I was raped twice, bullied for being a city kid and bullied for being born in a certain caste (they were considered the higher and dominant caste but the wrong religion group of that caste), I've been stoned (as in hit with stones) but I endured, participated in all student cells and was extremely well liked by my lecturers and got multiple recognitions for representing my college.

but again my father had set that 80% condition and threatened that he wouldn't let me get a degree but I made it, broke all my previous issues with maths and got a 85% with 11 job offers each being the highest offer by those 11 companies.

I was happy that I got 85%, I was happy that finally I could get a degree.

but my father said No and to go for the highest paying offer - Which was 35k pm in Dubai where I had to wake up by 4 and work from 6am to 10 pm and 7 days a week.

i said no and he refused to pay for my college. I didn't completely give up, I got a good job and got promoted to state in charge within 7 months while being 18 years old and I kept working in different fields for 4 years and worked my ass off to save some money and i did save some money.

but my mom spent most of it saying family emergencies and now I'm in debt cuz of her - she didn't fight for me at any point when my dad did all that cuz she said what if she doesn't let your sister study?

and during those 4 years, they got divorced and he did stop paying for my sister's education - I paid for it apparently with the money i saved up and bought gold for her marriage from the money i saved up for my education and a phone for her and my mother, a microwave oven, a TV

during the divorce my dad disowned me and explicitly wrote me off the inheritance i would've gotten after him passing away (it's about 5 crores worth now) and she didn't fight for me either - what if he didn't pay for my sister's marriage and he did place a condition that he would pay for my sister's marriage if I'm written off the inheritance.

I got pretty sick this oct 2025 and was mostly bed ridden for three months and couldn't go out much till February.

out of boredom, I searched for eligibility for a law degree and found out that since 2022 the bar council of India allows diploma graduates to study law and considers it equivalent.

I hoped.

I hoped that I too could get a law degree and go to my Dream job as an advocate.

but again life happened

my mom said that she won't pay for my college saying it's too expensive, so I just got a job working nights and started to go to colleges for admission.

I've been to 4 and have contacted all law colleges in Chennai.

they said no - we will not give admission to diploma candidates

We don't care about what high court or supreme court or the bar council says - out management said no

here I am, feeling like the darkness is never ending and I'm completely lost.

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u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 4 days ago

Why does a glimmer of hope hurt so much

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I was a bit surprised and disappointed on Apr 29 of 2019.

it was the day my tenth standard's result was announced, I got a 395 (79%), My father had laid a condition saying that if I get less than 80% he's gonna make me go to a polytechnic and not let me continue my schooling but I've struggled with maths so I was worried I might not make it but I did make it and got a 58 compared to all the 85+ in the other subjects.

I was actually expecting him to give me some leeway and let me continue my 11th and 12th but I was on a train the same day and went to Sivakasi to apply for a diploma in printing technology.

it wasn't pleasant, I was raped twice, bullied for being a city kid and bullied for being born in a certain caste (they were considered the higher and dominant caste but the wrong religion group of that caste), I've been stoned (as in hit with stones) but I endured, participated in all student cells and was extremely well liked by my lecturers and got multiple recognitions for representing my college.

but again my father had set that 80% condition and threatened that he wouldn't let me get a degree but I made it, broke all my previous issues with maths and got a 85% with 11 job offers each being the highest offer by those 11 companies.

I was happy that I got 85%, I was happy that finally I could get a degree.

but my father said No and to go for the highest paying offer - Which was 35k pm in Dubai where I had to wake up by 4 and work from 6am to 10 pm and 7 days a week.

i said no and he refused to pay for my college. I didn't completely give up, I got a good job and got promoted to state in charge within 7 months while being 18 years old and I kept working in different fields for 4 years and worked my ass off to save some money and i did save some money.

but my mom spent most of it saying family emergencies and now I'm in debt cuz of her - she didn't fight for me at any point when my dad did all that cuz she said what if she doesn't let your sister study?

and during those 4 years, they got divorced and he did stop paying for my sister's education - I paid for it apparently with the money i saved up and bought gold for her marriage from the money i saved up for my education and a phone for her and my mother, a microwave oven, a TV

during the divorce my dad disowned me and explicitly wrote me off the inheritance i would've gotten after him passing away (it's about 5 crores worth now) and she didn't fight for me either - what if he didn't pay for my sister's marriage and he did place a condition that he would pay for my sister's marriage if I'm written off the inheritance.

I got pretty sick this oct 2025 and was mostly bed ridden for three months and couldn't go out much till February.

out of boredom, I searched for eligibility for a law degree and found out that since 2022 the bar council of India allows diploma graduates to study law and considers it equivalent.

I hoped.

I hoped that I too could get a law degree and go to my Dream job as an advocate.

but again life happened

my mom said that she won't pay for my college saying it's too expensive, so I just got a job working nights and started to go to colleges for admission.

I've been to 4 and have contacted all law colleges in Chennai.

they said no - we will not give admission to diploma candidates

We don't care about what high court or supreme court or the bar council says - out management said no

here I am, feeling like the darkness is never ending and I'm completely lost.

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u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 4 days ago

Lost a bet, shaved the stache

the bet was that a certain party would win in my state, but that certain party lost and took over the opposition benches

so umm yea, took off the stache and like any reasonable person - joined a political party

u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 13 days ago

yep

I was seeing some posts and i remembered something i usually say to people for different things

the feeling of love is a basic human necessity, the modern act of love is an induced demand

like buying expensive chocolates, pricey roses, stuff with hearts with unreasonable rates on it - it's an induced demand made to force you to spend more to prove your love

while looking at some posts, it hit me

why am I not getting good matches in tinder or hinge or bumble when I'm active and great matches when I reinstall or use it after awhile?

I looked it up - the dating app's algorithms are wired in a way that they hold back potential matches with high compatibility scores and just show you types you've proven to dislike to keep you swiping

if you keep swiping - the company can show a high usage rate and show you more ads and earn more from ad revenue

that's not all - the premium although looks like giving you a super power like ability within the app is also wired to keep you paying every month

think about it, if you install and/or pay premium and delete the app after a week when you find a nice guy or gal - what's in it for them?

grindr is a whole nother bucket of fuck ups - not going in to that now

so umm go to queer events, pride parades and places where you have to show your face - that usually pbly works

happy hunting

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u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 24 days ago

to all the tamil speaking Paalputhumaiyinar

we now have a new home in reddit.

welcome to r/tamizhqueers and slay away.....

check out the rules, get a flair and start posting folks

u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 1 month ago

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u/Acrobatic_Command560 — 1 month ago