u/Acrobatic_Command560

I was a bit surprised and disappointed on Apr 29 of 2019.

it was the day my tenth standard's result was announced, I got a 395 (79%), My father had laid a condition saying that if I get less than 80% he's gonna make me go to a polytechnic and not let me continue my schooling but I've struggled with maths so I was worried I might not make it but I did make it and got a 58 compared to all the 85+ in the other subjects.

I was actually expecting him to give me some leeway and let me continue my 11th and 12th but I was on a train the same day and went to Sivakasi to apply for a diploma in printing technology.

it wasn't pleasant, I was raped twice, bullied for being a city kid and bullied for being born in a certain caste (they were considered the higher and dominant caste but the wrong religion group of that caste), I've been stoned (as in hit with stones) but I endured, participated in all student cells and was extremely well liked by my lecturers and got multiple recognitions for representing my college.

but again my father had set that 80% condition and threatened that he wouldn't let me get a degree but I made it, broke all my previous issues with maths and got a 85% with 11 job offers each being the highest offer by those 11 companies.

I was happy that I got 85%, I was happy that finally I could get a degree.

but my father said No and to go for the highest paying offer - Which was 35k pm in Dubai where I had to wake up by 4 and work from 6am to 10 pm and 7 days a week.

i said no and he refused to pay for my college. I didn't completely give up, I got a good job and got promoted to state in charge within 7 months while being 18 years old and I kept working in different fields for 4 years and worked my ass off to save some money and i did save some money.

but my mom spent most of it saying family emergencies and now I'm in debt cuz of her - she didn't fight for me at any point when my dad did all that cuz she said what if she doesn't let your sister study?

and during those 4 years, they got divorced and he did stop paying for my sister's education - I paid for it apparently with the money i saved up and bought gold for her marriage from the money i saved up for my education and a phone for her and my mother, a microwave oven, a TV

during the divorce my dad disowned me and explicitly wrote me off the inheritance i would've gotten after him passing away (it's about 5 crores worth now) and she didn't fight for me either - what if he didn't pay for my sister's marriage and he did place a condition that he would pay for my sister's marriage if I'm written off the inheritance.

I got pretty sick this oct 2025 and was mostly bed ridden for three months and couldn't go out much till February.

out of boredom, I searched for eligibility for a law degree and found out that since 2022 the bar council of India allows diploma graduates to study law and considers it equivalent.

I hoped.

I hoped that I too could get a law degree and go to my Dream job as an advocate.

but again life happened

my mom said that she won't pay for my college saying it's too expensive, so I just got a job working nights and started to go to colleges for admission.

I've been to 4 and have contacted all law colleges in Chennai.

they said no - we will not give admission to diploma candidates

We don't care about what high court or supreme court or the bar council says - out management said no

here I am, feeling like the darkness is never ending and I'm completely lost.

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I was a bit surprised and disappointed on Apr 29 of 2019.

it was the day my tenth standard's result was announced, I got a 395 (79%), My father had laid a condition saying that if I get less than 80% he's gonna make me go to a polytechnic and not let me continue my schooling but I've struggled with maths so I was worried I might not make it but I did make it and got a 58 compared to all the 85+ in the other subjects.

I was actually expecting him to give me some leeway and let me continue my 11th and 12th but I was on a train the same day and went to Sivakasi to apply for a diploma in printing technology.

it wasn't pleasant, I was raped twice, bullied for being a city kid and bullied for being born in a certain caste (they were considered the higher and dominant caste but the wrong religion group of that caste), I've been stoned (as in hit with stones) but I endured, participated in all student cells and was extremely well liked by my lecturers and got multiple recognitions for representing my college.

but again my father had set that 80% condition and threatened that he wouldn't let me get a degree but I made it, broke all my previous issues with maths and got a 85% with 11 job offers each being the highest offer by those 11 companies.

I was happy that I got 85%, I was happy that finally I could get a degree.

but my father said No and to go for the highest paying offer - Which was 35k pm in Dubai where I had to wake up by 4 and work from 6am to 10 pm and 7 days a week.

i said no and he refused to pay for my college. I didn't completely give up, I got a good job and got promoted to state in charge within 7 months while being 18 years old and I kept working in different fields for 4 years and worked my ass off to save some money and i did save some money.

but my mom spent most of it saying family emergencies and now I'm in debt cuz of her - she didn't fight for me at any point when my dad did all that cuz she said what if she doesn't let your sister study?

and during those 4 years, they got divorced and he did stop paying for my sister's education - I paid for it apparently with the money i saved up and bought gold for her marriage from the money i saved up for my education and a phone for her and my mother, a microwave oven, a TV

during the divorce my dad disowned me and explicitly wrote me off the inheritance i would've gotten after him passing away (it's about 5 crores worth now) and she didn't fight for me either - what if he didn't pay for my sister's marriage and he did place a condition that he would pay for my sister's marriage if I'm written off the inheritance.

I got pretty sick this oct 2025 and was mostly bed ridden for three months and couldn't go out much till February.

out of boredom, I searched for eligibility for a law degree and found out that since 2022 the bar council of India allows diploma graduates to study law and considers it equivalent.

I hoped.

I hoped that I too could get a law degree and go to my Dream job as an advocate.

but again life happened

my mom said that she won't pay for my college saying it's too expensive, so I just got a job working nights and started to go to colleges for admission.

I've been to 4 and have contacted all law colleges in Chennai.

they said no - we will not give admission to diploma candidates

We don't care about what high court or supreme court or the bar council says - out management said no

here I am, feeling like the darkness is never ending and I'm completely lost.

step 1 : get a boyfriend or girlfriend

yep

I was seeing some posts and i remembered something i usually say to people for different things

the feeling of love is a basic human necessity, the modern act of love is an induced demand

like buying expensive chocolates, pricey roses, stuff with hearts with unreasonable rates on it - it's an induced demand made to force you to spend more to prove your love

while looking at some posts, it hit me

why am I not getting good matches in tinder or hinge or bumble when I'm active and great matches when I reinstall or use it after awhile?

I looked it up - the dating app's algorithms are wired in a way that they hold back potential matches with high compatibility scores and just show you types you've proven to dislike to keep you swiping

if you keep swiping - the company can show a high usage rate and show you more ads and earn more from ad revenue

that's not all - the premium although looks like giving you a super power like ability within the app is also wired to keep you paying every month

think about it, if you install and/or pay premium and delete the app after a week when you find a nice guy or gal - what's in it for them?

grindr is a whole nother bucket of fuck ups - not going in to that now

so umm go to queer events, pride parades and places where you have to show your face - that usually pbly works

happy hunting

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