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I cannot stress enough how you absolutely must close out your ACL weekend with Parcels into The XX. 2 of the best sets of the entire weekend, hands down (and I am a Rufus diehard- seen them 5x). If I wasn’t going out of town next weekend, I would go Sunday W2 exclusively to experience these 2 sets again.

The energy, the vibes, the music, the vocals, the love from the bands and the crowd. It truly felt like a community dance party full of nostalgia. Both were very fluid sets with little-to-no breaks- they just kept the music going and seamlessly transitioned and jammed into the next song. Camera work and minimalist production added such a specific, artistic touch to both sets too.

And let me say, I was not an avid listener of either of these bands… Planned on “stopping by” both of them to check them out, and figured I’d just be sitting on the lawn chilling, but I did not stop moving for the full 2 hours of both sets. I had actually watched The XX’s livestream of their Coachella set and honestly thought it was a little boring… But boy was I wrong! Seeing them live was an energetic experience.

Most honorable mention: XX’s cover of Take Care by Rihanna and Drake… The live piano and bass of the iconic chords. Holy SHIT!!! I think I transcended.

Please please please W2- GO!

EDIT: didn’t know that Drake’s Take Care actually sampled Jaime XX’s I’ll Take Care of You. My mistake! Was unaware as I wasn’t an avid listener.

Also, as of 1:10pm on Monday, 10/5, The XX’s set from ACL is up on PLUS Concert’s YouTube channel. I would go watch it before it gets taken down!🙈

To those that are in recovery or out of a spiral- what words, advice, podcast, book, therapist’s work, etc. made things change and click for you? Is there a specific phrase that really shifted your understanding and mindset and/or propelled you into healing and recovery?

I am in a 2.5 year relationship, and have been dealing with ROCD for 1.5 years of it (surprise, surprise- as soon as the honeymoon phase ended). I was familiar with ROCD, as it showed up in my past 2 relationships, so I started therapy as soon as this started to pop back up 1.5 years ago. About a month ago (well over a year into therapy), my therapist said “you’ve been thinking about this and trying to figure this out for how long now? Over a year? And how much closer are you to getting certainty?” We both knew the answer. I’ve not closer at all, if anything, I feel worse now than I did when this all started.

While I wouldn’t consider myself in recovery (at all, unfortunately), that question she asked has really stuck with me and been a good reminder that continuing to ruminate, check, compare, etc. hasn’t gotten me any closer to certainty, but actually only made me feel worse and more distant from myself and from my partner. But actually putting down the compulsions (though it feels completely involuntary at this point) is the next step.

So, asking for advice on what made meaningful change and progress in your recovery journey. Thanks strangers-that-feel-like-friends-on-the-internet!