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AITA for accidentally outing the gay guy in my gym?

So, I joined a new gym last month. The gym has all the extra facilities- pool, steam room, ice bath, etc. The steam room only runs 3 days a week, and men and women have separate rooms. You also have to inform the manager beforehand if you want to use the facilities.

The other night around 10 PM, I finished my workout and asked the manager to let me access the steam area. He told me the steam room was already running and that two guys were inside.

I don’t really have an issue with nudity, and usually people in steam rooms just cover themselves with a towel. But when I went inside, I realized the two dudes were fully making out (and more than making out, just use your imagination).

I felt uncomfortable and decided to leave. As I exited, the manager asked me why I came out so early. Jokingly, I said, “Let those two have their moment, I’ll take steam some other day.”

The next day at the gym, one of the two guys confronted me and said I had outed his sexuality and turned him into a laughing stock at the gym because the guy is heavily into manosphere/alpha-male culture, and apparently his “alpha squad” has been making fun of him since then.

He told me he now has to leave the gym (which is the best one in the area) because I blabbed it to the manager.

The other guy, meanwhile, was pretty chill about it and even apologized for things getting out of hand in the steam room and for not realizing I had walked in.

So, Reddit am I the asshole for outing their sexuality at the gym?

UPDATE- I am surprised to see this post blew up. I was not expecting it to get this kind of response. First of all, I want to thank all the folks saying I am NTA in this situation, especially people from the LGBTQ community.

To the people saying this is a made-up story or not true: I rarely post on Reddit, and I honestly don’t know what people get out of making up stories. I shared more details in the comments, but I’ll post them here as well. It was pretty late at night, and the gym usually gets empty around 10:30 PM, which is why they probably thought nobody would walk in there. The manager reprimanded both of them and didn’t ban them only because they have been longtime members of the gym.

I live in Delhi, India. Delhi is definitely more progressive than many other parts of the country, but it is still not a safe haven for LGBTQ people like parts of America or Europe. Homosexuality was a crime in India until just 6 years ago, which is why I struggled so much with the outing part.

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