u/ActuallyGoneWest

I’m a music ed major with my primary instrument being clarinet. I’ll be a sophomore this fall, and this summer I’m preparing to audition for my university’s jazz bands. I have quite a bit of experience playing sax; in high school I was lead alto in the top jazz ensemble and played sax for show choir and musical pit. I’ve never played in the altissimo register on sax, but I’m comfortable enough with the higher notes in the second register. Is that alright, or should I start working on altissimo notes? I can play excerpts just fine and I’m decent at soloing, so my main concern is technique. I’ve literally never spent any time on exercises for sax, so all this is new to me. If anyone can think of anything else I might want to know or work on, I’d appreciate it!

Edit to add, this is a 5th grade student. I am sharing this under student or parent tag because I'm not the teacher, but I work closely with several involved and am having trouble with this situation and I’m looking for perspectives on a situation that happened at my school.

This week (last week of school), a student who is typically kind, easygoing, and very compliant with teachers was faced with a choice between two school activities scheduled at the same time:

-A required honor choir rehearsal for a concert that evening

-An active, school-wide class competition where students competed as class teams and participation numbers mattered

This student has been in choir all year. She auditioned at the beginning of the year, has attended every practice, and has been a reliable member of the group.

During the competition, the music teacher contacted me because the student was refusing to leave her class to attend choir rehearsal. The teacher stated that if the student did not attend rehearsal, she would not be allowed to perform in the concert that night.

I contacted the student’s mother. At first, the mother said the student needed to go to rehearsal.

The student chose to stay with her class to support her team in the competition. This was not done in defiance, but because she felt torn between two school commitments happening at the same time.

The situation escalated to the assistant principal. The student began crying during this process. The assistant principal called the mother again, and during that conversation, the mother stated that it was the student’s choice whether to attend rehearsal or stay with her class.

The music teacher asked me to speak with the student. I talked her through both options and the consequences. I made it clear that if she did not attend rehearsal, she would not be allowed to perform that evening. She understood and chose again to remain with her class.

She did not attend rehearsal and, as a result, was not allowed to perform in the concert that night. She was heartbroken but accepted the outcome calmly and respectfully.

During the situation, the music teacher addressed the students' teachers in a way that showed frustration about the time taken to resolve the issue, and other students were aware that it centered around this students missing rehearsal.

There was another student in the same situation who also chose to stay with their class.

I recently learned that the teacher has also decided not to award these two students their Honor Choir certificates at the awards ceremony Wednesday, though the students do not know this yet.

My question:

From a fairness and professional standpoint:

-Was the teacher right to enforce the “miss rehearsal, miss the concert” rule in this situation?

-Should the context (two overlapping school events, student history of full participation, parent ultimately giving the choice to the child) have been considered?

-Is withholding the Honor Choir certificate an appropriate extension of this consequence?

I’m trying to understand whether this was a reasonable application of expectations or an overly rigid response to a situation where a student had to choose between two school-sponsored activities. I have my own emotions about this, but know I'm probably too close to be reasonable.

I’m switching from a 36C to a 32H after using the calculator. I got some new bras, and while the cup and band sizes seem mostly fine, it’s just not quite fitting right. My boobs keep shifting out of the cup towards the center, and the cup ends at my sides, lining up with the armpit area. I don’t have any breast tissue to fill the cup on the sides like that, and I physically cannot shift them that direction any more to fill it out. When I take the bra off and just hold up my boobs individually, the cup size seems perfect. I’m wondering if 32 is maybe too tight of a band size. It felt hard to clasp and was snugger than I’m used to, but I’m not really sure if that’s indicative of an ill-fitting bra or the fact that I’ve been wearing a much larger band than I should’ve for so long. These are still the best fitting bras I’ve had, but I’m just gonna have to stick with sports bras a bit longer until I can figure this out 😅

The bras I purchased were the Skims Fits Everybody Plunge Bra and the Weightless Scoop Bra. The plunge bra was the more comfortable of the two, but the cup issue was more pronounced. My breast tissue is all concentrated so far forward on my body that theres no way I could ever get it to sit in the sides like that. I had some difficulty getting the scoop bra on, but I think sizing up would be way too loose. I had the same issue with the cups in that bra, but it wasn’t as bad. The center of the bra was not hitting my sternum, but I think if my breasts were physically further apart from each other on my body then it wouldn’t be an issue.

I have a really hard time using the pinned resources to try and figure out how to best describe my shape. I feel like I have pretty even fullness with narrow roots. My breasts are also very close together. Here’s my measurements

Loose Underbust: 32

Snug Underbust: 31

Tight Underbust: 29

Standing Bust: 38

Leaning Bust: 40

Lying Bust: 38

Thank you!!