Expectations of my free time
I, (46,F) am having some weird issues with my mother (69) lately. The past 6 months she has become obsessed with my schedule. She wants to know my days off, my hours, if I have a dr appt will I have the whole day off?
I should probably x post this with raised by narcissists as well, because she does have boundary issues. For some reason I could foresee this and I have told her I work 6 days a week with a long commute. (I’m actually a housewife now on a VA pension) because I knew she would have the expectation of being her personal driver/companion on call 24/7.
We aren’t close. We don’t get along great, never did. Suddenly all her years of abuse and terrorizing,humiliation, hoarding,and lies are all forgotten about she can’t remember that. And she acts as if only I could quit my job I could be her bff?
I’m at the point that I’m starting to get paranoid. We live in the same town, so if I bump into her at the store or in traffic I know I will get an interrogation about why I’m not at work, why didn’t I tell her I had the day off…like she is entitled to know about every free day I have. I am feeling controlled even though we aren’t even in the same house.
I cant talk about things with her. I scored tickets to the Wicked musical. I can’t tell her about it. I will get interrogated about how much it cost, did I have the day off, why didn’t I bring her instead of husband…I feel like a grounded adult that has to sneak out.
Anyone else deal with this?