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Share your LOs age and nap routine because we have been going THROUGH it for daytime naps.

Our girl just turned 3 months and somewhere between becoming vividly aware of surroundings and possibly going through a growth spurt she has major FOMO?

For the last 2 weeks, she has been fighting EVERY SINGLE NAP like it’s an Olympic sport. I’m talking screaming crying for 45 minutes because now she’s overtired. We tried dim lights, blackout, white noise, swaddle, no swaddle, shushing, pacifier, all the things. It was always a fight and I’d end up having to nurse her to sleep. Soon she started associating the dark room with naps and would cry as soon as we brought her to our room.

Just today I tried a variation of a nap routine I saw on the Taking Cara Babies site and started it as soon as she did her first yawn even though I thought it was too early (literally only 30-45 min after she woke up from her last nap) because i thought what do I have to lose? And there was NO CRYING. 😱 Maybe we just needed a nap routine/transition.

1. Bring baby up to room where it’s dim calm lighting but not black out (removing that dark room pressure to nap association)
2. Diaper change / get out toots
3. Top off feed / burp
4. Sleep sack (we’re transitioning out of swaddle)
5. Short story and cuddles
6. Close blinds/lights out
7. White noise
8. Rock to sleep (We don’t put baby down drowsy but awake yet. That hasn’t worked for us and only extended the overtired cycle 🥴 so we contact nap then transfer to bassinet)

My baby has been screaming and arching her back at the breast for over a week now. She may latch at first but then pulls off and cries because of my forceful letdown. I think it’s making her gulp air and have gas pains but I’m not sure. She only calms down when I hold her upright which makes me think reflux.
Sometimes it’s better at night or during the day when side lying but I have to catch her really sleepy right as she wakes up from a nap. Even then it’s not always successful.
She spits up here and there when laying down but how do I know if it’s reflux or normal baby spit up?

I’m really struggling with breastfeeding right now and could use advice from anyone who has dealt with oversupply/forceful letdown/reflux-like feeding issues because I’m about to quit.

My baby is around 3 months old and breastfeeds relatively well overnight because she’s sleepy, but as of a little over a week ago, daytime feeds are SO stressful!
During the day when I try to breastfeed on my left (the over producing side), she often pulls off and arches her back, scream cries (soon after she latches or even as I lower her into cradle position), chokes/gulps and rarely wants to latch back on. I have to hold her upright and pat her back and then she starts sucking on her hands. I’ll try again but same thing back to screaming but I know she’s hungry.

It really seems like she gives up because she’s tired of getting waterboarded by my milk, and she’s come to expect the pain of gulping air and the gas that comes with feeding on the left side.

Pediatrician suggested low stim feeding in a dark room with white noise right as she wakes up from a nap since overnight feeds have been more successful. That has worked some of the time, but others she still cries and arches her back and pulls away, even if we switch it up with side lying position or football hold. (The laid back position has never worked for her she’s very uncomfortable with the pressure on her belly from the start and she won’t latch).

At this point I know it’s my forceful let down, particularly on my left side. It fills quickly and gets firm easily. Baby is far less fussy on my right which seems to be regulated and doesn’t fill up to that same firmness.

Overnight I struggle with engorgement and I have to set alarms to wake up and pump even if just for 5-8 minutes to relieve the pressure. I’m trying to balance that without worsening oversupply, all while worrying about clogged ducts and mastitis (had that last month on my right side).

It’s the worst feeling when your baby is looking up at you red faced crying wondering why this is happening and all you want is to make it stop and have the wonderful BF bonding experience you were hoping for. I’d be okay moving to bottles but it’s such a pain trying to get her to drink even 2oz from a bottle without choking or generally refusing that it’s hard to imagine her on bottles 100% of the time.

If anyone has dealt with something similar I’d love to know what worked for you and your baby. Did they grow out of it? Did you do something specific that worked?

I had no idea how much stress this would cause and it’s mentally wearing me out. I’m not enjoying being a mom when I dreamed of this since I was a child. Any advice or encouragement would really help right now.