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Anyone up to explore the unseen, unexplored and off beat spots in Dhanbad and nearby places?

Saw a post where a woman matched with a man on a matrimonial app, found his Instagram herself, reached out first, got emotionally invested over months, travelled to meet him at his posting, stayed with him for two days, ignored multiple red flags, and still tried to make things work even after he admitted he was talking to several other women simultaneously.

Then the moment she returned, he became distant, blocked her everywhere, and now she’s in panic trying to understand what went wrong.

What really stood out to me was this:

Would an average man receive this level of initiative, effort, emotional tolerance, benefit of doubt, and continued investment after showing so many red flags?

Because realistically, most average men get rejected for far less.

Biologically, women have historically been inclined to look for security, stability, and strong long-term prospects. But modern society seems to amplify those instincts heavily through:

• elite professions
• income
• prestige
• social status
• lifestyle perception

It increasingly feels like people tolerate behaviour from highly desirable individuals that they would never tolerate from someone average.

So where does biology end and social conditioning begin?

Are dating apps and prestige culture amplifying human instincts beyond what’s rational?

And honestly, I also feel worried for the next guy she meets, because experiences like this often leave people emotionally damaged, suspicious, or unable to trust normally again.

With layoffs, AI disruption, and shrinking high-CTC opportunities in tech/white-collar sectors, do you think this will eventually affect the marriage market in India?

Especially in urban arranged marriage setups, salary has become one of the biggest filters for grooms. But if ₹30–50+ LPA jobs become rarer or less stable, what happens then?

Do expectations eventually adjust downward?

Or does competition for the remaining high earners become even more extreme?

Could this lead to:

• delayed marriages?
• changing expectations from men?
• more importance on stability over salary?
• reduced hypergamy?
• frustration among average earners?

Countries like Japan and South Korea already saw economic pressure affect relationships and birth rates. Could urban India slowly move in that direction too?

Curious to hear perspectives from both men and women here.