u/AdMammoth8421

*I tagged NSFW bc I talk about body parts and dysphoria*

I'm a minor and a "late bloomer" so unfortunately still going through puberty. I bought a pair of nice pants for a school event a bit less than a year ago and it fit perfectly. Around December I had to wear these pants for another event and I had a bit of trouble closing the button but I got it down. Its not like they shrunk in the wash because I don't think they have been washed. This is around the same time I started noticing stretch marks on the side of my ass. Today I had to put on the pants again and I couldn't even get them on. I felt nauseous and like I had a pit in my stomach or I was dreading something. the same feeling I get when my mom tells me that my chest is going to grow a lot more and that I won't be able to hide it forever. every time I look in the mirror I get this feeling and its awful. I am chubby and I am aware of that (140 lbs at 5'6) but I know that there is a bone under my love handles and on the sides of my thighs that weren't there a year ago and this morning I pulled back my shirt and wanted to throw up. I also got this feeling when I was accidentally outed last week and I thought I was either gonna throw up or pass out. I didn't think I had dysphoria but i'm really questioning if this is that because its impacting my life and taking up most of my thoughts. if anyone can help me out please comment. thank you 🙏

I'm almost 15 and have been out for four years already and am 95% stealth. My younger brother is having a Bar Mitzvah party and it is usual for the family hosting the party to make a video of like pictures of the bar mitzvah boy as a kid and pictures of him growing up etc. Against my choices, there is going to be a video that will be including me from before I transitioned and it will be shown to all 80 guests. My parents say they don't want to erase 8 years of my brothers life (family pictures from before I transitioned) which is valid but I think its unfair that I will get outed in front of so many people. The majority of the people going are family friends that knew me from before but there is also gonna be a lot of kids from my brother's school that don't know. I survived 3 years of middle school ducking rumors that I was gay (thankfully no one clocked me for being trans) but I will have to go to school with these kids in two years when they come to high school. My parents have been supportive from the start but they're also tough love people who think that its okay to out me in front of everyone I know. I already had to come out to two of my friends and one of my brother's friends when they came over and saw the family pictures on the wall of my house that my mom isn't willing to move elsewhere. I can survive with two or three people finding out from coming to my house but the one thing I can't handle is having to jeopardize my stealth to 50 people because of a video. My mom said I can't hide who I am and that I need to be more transparent but I think this is crazy. Is this a normal thing for my parents to be doing? How do I tell them my concerns without making it look like i'm trying to hide my identity? please help

I'm almost 15 and have been out for four years already and am 95% stealth. My younger brother is having a Bar Mitzvah party and it is usual for the family hosting the party to make a video of like pictures of the bar mitzvah boy as a kid and pictures of him growing up etc. Against my choices, there is going to be a video that will be including me from before I transitioned and it will be shown to all 80 guests. My parents say they don't want to erase 8 years of my brothers life (family pictures from before I transitioned) which is valid but I think its unfair that I will get outed in front of so many people. The majority of the people going are family friends that knew me from before but there is also gonna be a lot of kids from my brother's school that don't know. I survived 3 years of middle school ducking rumors that I was gay (thankfully no one clocked me for being trans) but I will have to go to school with these kids in two years when they come to high school. My parents have been supportive from the start but they're also tough love people who think that its okay to out me in front of everyone I know. I already had to come out to two of my friends and one of my brother's friends when they came over and saw the family pictures on the wall of my house that my mom isn't willing to move elsewhere. I can survive with two or three people finding out from coming to my house but the one thing I can't handle is having to jeopardize my stealth to 50 people because of a video. My mom said I can't hide who I am and that I need to be more transparent but I think this is crazy. Is this a normal thing for my parents to be doing? How do I tell them my concerns without making it look like i'm trying to hide my identity? please help